Brides/grooms - I am in need of some serious input!

Oh no!!! do the wedding how you guys want to do it. dont try and please everyone else. people are going to have complaints no matter what so you girls might as well have the wedding of your dreams. i dont know much about pop up weddings but google reviews about them i know theyre wayyyyyyyyy cheaper thats for sure

Do the wedding the way you want. I have heard from others that didn't get their "dream" wedding for whatever reason, that they always wished they had done it differently. I know for me, I wanted the big fancy wedding and when we talked about a small wedding, I got really sad thinking about it. Doublecheck contracts but I think $3200 isn't that much to lose if it means less stress and more enjoyable for you two. If your families are helping to pay, I think that complicates things more as they may think they have a say since it's partly their money. If that is the case, and you can do your wedding without their help, let them know their financial assistance is no longer needed.

The amount of money that will go to waste for nothing and feeling that regret of a loss isn't a great feeling inside.

Ask your vendors if they have couples that will be interested in taking the date you chose and if the refund would come your way somehow of some amount. Read over your contracts and double check to make sure its viable based on the time frame you have to cancel.

Try working something out with the vendors to see what is an option otherwise to not lose so much of your deposits.

Its a shame your families put you two through this when they should have listened to what was the plan in the first place. As a couple, the decision is all you for you two to make and no on else. This time around, put your foot down whenever you feel things aren't going your way.

I definitely feel for you guys! I had some venue/wedding regrets around 5-6 months before our wedding where I felt like we were catering to my family. Since we had our deposits down and people were pumped about the wedding, I decided to push through, and we ended up with a memorable day!

Definitely agree with Rayanne and Tori and check over your contracts before deciding anything! Some vendors might require you pay x amount if you cancel so close to your wedding but others just keep your deposit. Also think about if you are ready to be out the $3200.

I completely agree with Rayanne. Just make sure you check your contracts first because even if you only paid X amount of dollars you may be required to pay more even if you cancel if it's in the contract.

If you like any of them then I would for sure say to see about getting them to let you move your deposit to the type of wedding you are wanting - it doesn't hurt to ask right?

At the end of all of that if it's doable then you need to do what you and your FW want and even if some of your family is sad to hear that the big wedding is off they will come around to the thought that this wedding is more "you". Just be sure to include them as best you can in the smaller one

My fiance and I had a vendor booked and were planning on having a large reception (I say large but really we only planned on having 75 people). It was crazy how much everything added up, and we decided to cancel and just elope instead. So now we are having a private ceremony with about 10-15 close family only, and honestly I'm so happy we made that decision. We had put down a $2,000 deposit but lucky they refunded it to us as it was within the time frame. Your wedding is still 9 months away, a lot of places should refund your deposit if it's far enough in advance. Even if they don't you will still save A TON of money if you go the pop-up route. Our wedding budget was also 12,000, and now it's only 6,000, and honestly it could be a couple thousand less but we decided to go for more of a fancy elopement lol You have to decide what's important to you and what's not. You should also talk to your family about how you're feeling and get some advice. Good luck!

Hi Jenna,

First let me say how sorry I am that you are experiencing regretful thoughts on the planning process.

With that being said, I think a pop up wedding is a great idea. As Amelia said, ask to see if you can transfer to a different package. I would not just walk away without trying to recoup some of the funds paid out.