Bridal Party etiquette?? Should siblings including in laws always be in it? Can you just invite one half of a couple?

It’s nice that they did it.. but honestly, it is your day. I find that men get less of a say in things, so I wouldn’t budge if I were him. This is supposed to be a special day for you two, surrounded by people that you love who help keep you at ease and reassure you. It doesn’t sound like your brother in law is that person for him. If need be, pull your sister in law aside and tell her that he had already promised the spot to a good friend without thinking.. sometimes it’s easy enough to play it down to that. I wish you luck

It's nice to include family whenever you can but not necessary. I think it's nice for you to have his sister since she is related, and you get along, but her husband isn't related to either of you (and doesn't get along with your fiance) so he does not need to be asked.

Everyone in our wedding party is married or in a serious relationship and we aren't having any of their partners in the wedding party.

You definitely don't have to ask someone's spouse or fiance(e) to be in the wedding party just because their significant other is!

I'd say no. For example, my FH sister is in my bridal party as we are close and she is his blood sister. She even asked if we were asking her hubby and I said no. (she was only curious) when choosing your bridal party who will stand with you it should not be based on couples it should be based on who you want there to share the day with you. I'd assure your fiancé that you can have his sister without having the husband no problem.

The first wedding I was apart of - was my ex boyfriend's best friend (we were also close friends). His wife (fiance at the time) invited me to be one of her bridesmaids, which I was happy to be apart of. At the time, we had only met twice (they were only dating/engaged for about 7-8 months before they got married). I think one of the main reasons she asked me was because my ex boyfriend was the best man. It was very nice of her, but kind of weird.
I'd say, there's no obligation at all to ask him if your fiance doesn't want to.

Definitely not wrong to only ask one person of the couple to be in the bridal party. Think of the bridal party as more divided, you ask the girls who are important to you, he asks the boys who are important to him.

If you're worried about this man feeling left out, you could ask him to be an usher and also ask him to sit at the head table. This will make him feel a little more involved in the day and avoid any awkward conversations, but still allow your FH to have the guys who are important to him.

My fiance has one of his best friends as groomsmen and I am very close to his soon to be fiance but I have not asked her and neither will I. It is absolutely not necessary to include wedding parties significant others, including family. Your wedding party should not be who you think you have to have it should be who you want more than anyone to stand in your special day. You don't want to look back years later and think "why did I have them in the wedding party?!?!" And completely regret it.

I am a bridesmaid for one of a close friend's wedding. We always go on double dates and both are fiancé's became friends through us. Even though they are now friends. My fiancé is not a groomsmen. Its really not necessary to add his new brother in law.

I wouldn't worry! Have her and don't ask him. I am sure he feels the same as your FH about their friendship and would rather not be forced to be apart of something he wouldn't want to be.

You don't have to ask both of them just because they are a couple. You should have people standing next to you that mean something to you; not just people you have to have up there.

I’m facing something somewhat similar. My fiancé is asking his BIL to be a groomsman, therefore I am compelled to ask his sister (who I don’t necessarily get along with) to be one of mine. Everyone around me tells me I shouldn’t ask her if I don’t want her, but it’s the right thing to do.

It’s a weird situation. I think your fiancé can get away with not asking his FBIL to be part of it since it’s not like he’s saying no to one of your brothers.

Good luck with things ❤️

I think you’re right! It isn’t necessary that he chooses his new brother in law. He should choose the people closest to him that he wants to. Maybe your new brother in law can do something else for the wedding like be an usher if you’re having any ushers? You should both get to have the people you want standing there with you on your wedding day.

I did the same thing! I asked a friend and my fH didn’t ask her husband. I dont see anything wrong with it. Just because they are a couple doesn’t make it automatic to the wedding party!