Bachelorette party - change of heart

You should be comfortable with the plans. mine is a low key and i am more then happy with that.

I flatly told my MOH/sis that im fine with brunch & maybe a spa day. im more of a tea & coffee drinker, notorious for posting dishes on my Instagram and I have no desire to be dragged to bars/strip clubs etc

We all change over time. You have to go with what your comfortable with.

I want a low key weekend away with my friends. My idea was to rent a cottage for the weekend, have a spa day and play board games/drink lol at night. My BFF/MOH is planning my bachelorette and she wants to take me to the bars. I have another friend who's helping her but at this point I'm so frustrated that she can't atleast respect my wishes for something low key. I hope my other friend can convince her.

My MOH and older sister both want me do to Vegas so bad... but it's not my scene at all.

I'm actually going to end up with a super small group doing a low key weekend. I'm from Vancouver but my mom lives in a beautiful house on Van. Island with an ocean view... so I'm going to take advantage of that, and have my bridal party, and the Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom do a winery/spa weekend. Maybe not a spa, but manis/pedis, wine, and good food. Way less expensive than a weekend away, and more fun to me than a big night out!

We actually aren't doing anything at all. Our bridal party all live in different cities so we won't all be together until the night before the wedding. We will hang out and have a few drinks at the rehearsal but that's as crazy as it's going to get. I've never really understood the whole last night out. I don't understand why they're needed. It's not like your life completely changes after you get married! You can go out and have a girls night or a guys night anytime.

We are doing something low key but fun! We are going to go to a private pole dancing class! I’m not really into the whole stripper thing, so this is something everyone will like and have fun with!

Thanks everyone for your great advice! It's definitely helped and I'm feeling more confident about doing what I want and what feels comfortable!

I think that's fine when my FSIL had her bachelorette party she had 2. One in town for those that wouldn't be able to go to Vegas, financially or legally (haha I was 18 and not legal age to party. I opted out so they wanted to go to bars or anything I wouldn't hold them back and they didn't have to worry about me).

For the one in town is was a larger group and the one in vegas was smaller and more intimate.

My own party will be low key I'm not the partying type of person....

I am not into the party scene and want to do something low key for my bachelorette. I think the important thing is who you spend that time with, not what you do.

I think that is completely fine! I used to think I was going to have a raging bachelorette and go crazy but I ended up wanting something way more low key as I am now older. We all change with age but as long as you are with your girls and having a good time it doesn't matter what you do.

Yes, totally feel you on that. Trust your instincts when party planning so that you don't end up regretting your choice. Going BIG is costly. I'm sure there are people in your wedding party will be relieved as well.

I think it is a really common thing to be honest. When we're younger and more into partying we picture this big BALLS OUT celebration. However, once we're in a happy relationship and at this point, the club feeling and partying feeling just aren't as exciting anymore.

I've never been into going to clubs or gambling or anything. So Vegas was never on my radar, my dream bachelorette is to just get time with my girls.. our lives are all so busy I value the time to really talk to them.

I've told them I want to go to Toronto for a night, eat some good food, go to a strip club (cause I've never been and I want to tick that box off) and then rent out a big hotel room, put pjs on and drink champagne and chat.

My FH considered Vegas, but its SO expensive. He's decided to do a wilderness tour. So it's a cabin and they go white water rafting and do some other activities.

To be honest a bachelorette party like that has never been an interest to me. Not even a little bit. I’d rather put that money into my honeymoon. I’m a more low key person though. I think ultimately you should do what you are going to enjoy most. Don’t feel pressured by friends or what other people are doing.

I’m planning to take some girls to my parents cottage and maybe do some spa stuff and hit up a favourite winery. A friend of mine did a comedy club for hers and then we went to a bar and that was fun!

Myself and most of my bridesmaids are older, with the exception of a couple, and my FH sister, who thinks she is younger then she really is lol. There was Vegas talk, and even a weekend to an Island, which I have no interest in at all. I would rather just go to an escape room with the girls, and then dinner and drinks.

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I hear ya! I used to want an extravagant party but when i was chatting with my MOH about it i realized i really just wanted something more low key and local. Maybe some wine tasting and dinner. And then go home to my own bed! Haha.

I feel ya! I originally wanted a crazy night now I want the complete opposite and my girls love it. My fiance is also just having a low key night with the boys.

Our plan is to maybe take a trip, the whole wedding party but seperate hotels, or floors of the hotel at a nice casino near Niagara Falls. Us girls with have a spa day then have a wine night and the boys will probably gamble a bit, we may join them too. I love the idea of a group activity with mostly seperate bachelorette/bachelor parties. Will be a fun weekend for us all 😊

Don't worry about "not living it up" if you want something small and simple then that's awesome too, bachelorette doesn't need to be a wild night that no one remembers.