Are you inviting someone out of obligation?

Our parents friends are being invited out of obligation.. but we both really cut down those lists to only the people we want to come

My mom did ask for her friend to be invited-which I wasn’t completely against. My parents were helping with the wedding so I figured one person wouldn’t hurt!

A bunch of family members - one thing I quickly learned about planning our wedding was that it's much more about your families than it is about you two as the bride and groom lol. Fiance has a huge family and he really wanted to invite some of them as he's very close to them, however the rule is "you invite one you invite all" so him wanting to invite three aunts and uncles he's close to turned into 8 aunts and uncles, him wanting to invite 4 cousins turned into 30 cousins, etc. Same with me, I'm not close with my extended family at all but felt obligated to invite them out of courtesy. It's a little silly to me because as we have a small venue we had to limit our friend list to only 15 people and there are plenty of friends we're much closer to and would have loved to invite but can't because we had to make room for relatives some of us haven't seen in over a decade but that's the way it goes I guess!

Unfortunately a handful of people. I'm honestly kind of hoping they fall out of our social circles so we don't have to invite them 🙈

No neither of us have big families and with our schedules we dont get to see them nearly enough so we were happy to invite them. Our friends will top up the list.

I don't feel that I did on my side with the first round...maybe one or two on my FH side. My parents have told me they had a lot of people pressuring them for everything during their wedding for literally everything, so they are like the opposite: not insisting anyone extra of their friends is invited.

We're also paying for everything, so it's a little easy to say no to people.

I am not. i just invited family and my friends that i have talked too for years. my FH on the other hand wants to invite everyone under the sun and his friends' parents ugh lol

Of course! I wanted a very small/intimate wedding, but that went out the window quickly. So basically all of my aunts/uncles and most of my cousins had to be invited because "they're family".

Ya... we invited my FH's ex because she is married to one of his friends... don't worry though - she wasn't invited to my bachelorette or the getting ready process!

Not really, our guest list is mostly close friends and family

Of course. lots of family members, unfortunately

Yes. But I think of they aren't there it will cause more drama so I'll suck it up!

Unfortunately yes. Long story short we had one child create a lot of drama for us on my husbands side of the family. We were strictly adults only except our immediate niece and nephews, but there was one ( my husbands, aunts grand daughter) who made a big stink about coming and she was 12.... not cool. So we invited her and she didn’t say 2 words to my husband or myself the whole night.... lesson learned. Stand your ground!

Yes. Since our parents are helping out a bit with the cost we've had to be somewhat lenient with giving them a few friends or family members who wouldn't ordinarily be invited.

I definitely caved to some obligatory invites lol. My parents graciously paid for a bulk of our wedding so I felt bad when they wanted to invite a cousin, or some of their friends I'm not as close to.

I definitely made that Fallon Face anytime guest list issues came up lol

I felt I did yet not in a good way. There was one person that wasn't intended to be invited, yet attended against my regards. My husband fought me on the particular individual given a warning about her attending and did keep my word.

So many people. Mainly my grandmother friends who are kind of part of the family and get invited to Christmas and stuff. My mom really insisted that I invite them so I did, but they all fit at 1 table. I also felt obliged to invite my dad brother and wife, but it worked out ok bc I had no one to sit with my dad anyway.

Honestly, yes, I can think of one couple of the top of my head that's on the list because I felt like they had to be there since they're family.

Honestly, I'd have to look at the guest list to know that haha. I don't think so though.