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Sinéad
WeddingWire Admin January 2025 Galway

Are you inviting extended family?

Sinéad, on November 4, 2019 at 09:05 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 22

Where are you drawing the line when it comes to family? Are all your relatives invited? Are your cousins invited? What about your second cousins? Where does it end?


Are you inviting all of your extended family? Or are you sticking to your immediate family only?






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22 Comments

Latest activity by Melissa, on November 25, 2019 at 13:39
  • Melissa
    Devoted September 2021 Ontario
    Melissa ·
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    My FH and I are really close with our extended family (our parents first cousins) so yes they are invited

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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    We invited aunts and uncles but only a couple cousins. If we had included all cousins, that would’ve been our whole guest list for the budget we had!
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  • A
    Super September 2020 Ontario
    Amelia ·
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    Immediate family only for us (aunts/uncles, cousins) with a few exceptions of some extended family we've been close with and/or special requests from our parents, who are helping with some of the costs.

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  • BunnyBride
    Super August 2334 Nova Scotia
    BunnyBride ·
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    Our cut off is mainly aunts and uncles (between the two of us it's about 35 people including their partners). Only two first cousins on my side and one on my FH. For mine, the age gap between my parents and their next sibling (about 7-10 years) makes the cousins more like aunts and uncles, and my FH cousin grew up with him more like a best friend. All the other cousins aren't on the list....we didn't have the space.

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  • Geneviève
    VIP September 2020 Ontario
    Geneviève ·
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    No. We’re keeping it to immediate family because of how small it will be (plus we have ten cousins together excluding their SOs and kids)
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  • Steph
    Expert June 2022 Ontario
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    I have a tiny family and my dad/'s side isn't even in the picture so I don't have cousins or aunts or anyone like that to invite. My FH's family mostly lives back in Sri Lanka and most aren't invited
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  • Alexandra
    VIP November 2019 British Columbia
    Alexandra ·
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    We didn't make a specific cut off- some of my dad's cousins are some of my closest family, but if we went and included all second cousins it would've been insane! We picked our extended family based on who we are close to and regularly interact with.

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  • Veronica
    Super October 2021 Alberta
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    We went with first aunts and uncles and first cousins. Nothing outside of that.

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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    The guest count didn't allow for extended family from the overseas to invite. Budget would have gone over the expense given.

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  • R
    Devoted November 2019 Quebec
    Rebecca ·
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    My extended family is immediate to me. I'm very close with my aunts and cousins so I didnt think twice about inviting them. My fiance invites his 2nd cousins because hes close to them and his immediate family is smaller then mine. I also invited a few great aunts bc my mom asked me to which I know them well so it wasnt like inviting a long lost aunt.
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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    We went with Aunts, Uncles and First Cousins. My parents snuck in a few of their cousins to invite but we didn't get into the second, third cousins lol

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  • Chelsea
    Super June 2020 Alberta
    Chelsea ·
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    Some, yes! but not tons
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  • M
    Expert September 2019 Ontario
    Meaghan ·
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    Definitely not. We only invited immediate family.
    My husband's extended family is all in the US, and my extended family is huge. My dad is one of 14 kids, many of whom had a lot of kids. My first cousins + spouses easily hit 100. If we went to first cousins' children we would have over 300. It's ridiculous.
    So, no, wasn't even discussed.
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  • Ashley
    VIP August 2020 Ontario
    Ashley ·
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    Not all extended family. just people we know and talk too. if we invite everyone we would end up having 500 people lol

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  • Michelle
    Expert October 2021 Nova Scotia
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    We're mostly just inviting cousins from my side since I'm close with them and see them several times a year (in fact one of my cousins is a bridesmaid!).

    Though most of our guest list is family, I have my mom's side only since my dad was an only child. My FH has aunts and uncles on both sides of his family that are all going to be invited, plus his sister, brother-in-law and their kids

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  • Casey
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Casey ·
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    I don't have a huge family, so I invited everyone on my side. My Husband is italian, so we had to cut his list at the people he sees on a regular basis.

    We have been together for almost 6 years, and if I hadn't met them in that time, they weren't invited

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  • Valérie
    VIP September 2019 Quebec
    Valérie ·
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    We invited everyone up to our first cousins and their partners. We have a lot of older cousins who have kids of their own, which we didn't invite.

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  • Amelia
    Master October 2020 New Brunswick
    Amelia ·
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    We aren't inviting family that we don't see on a fairly regular basis. If we wouldn't have them over for Thanksgiving or a family BBQ then we don't need them there.
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  • Caitlyn
    Super January 2020 Ontario
    Caitlyn ·
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    We invited great aunts and uncles and some second cousins. FH has a cottage on a family island on his dad's side so he's fairly close with the extended family there and his mom's side is Greek so there's a lot of pressure to invite every single family member.

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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    We invited I think up to his 2nd cousins? So it Mom's 1st cousins that were like Aunts and Uncles to him? OH! I guess 3rd cousins because one of their kids was 18+ so she was invited!

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  • Kelsie
    Master July 2021 Ontario
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    We went pretty far, my FH's second cousin had a baby this year and the baby will be invited as part of their "family" invite.

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  • Rayanne
    Master June 2022 Ontario
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    Even inviting all of our family the guest list is pretty small. FH has some family in Greece and Germany but I dont expect them to make the trip for wedding.
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