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Curious October 2021 Ontario

Your two cents on eloping details

Catherine, on October 15, 2020 at 16:53 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 4
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We were supposed to get married with a big wedding on October 3 this year, but covid happened.


We are now in the mist of planning our elopement. We are using the same priest, church, photographer and have my dress and his suit ready to go. I have makeup and hair booked. And we have a date, plus our witnesses are pending their time off. Another detail is we are getting married in the small town we are currently posted to- limited restaurants and vendors.

Yet there are details we just don't know about and Google isn't helping as we aren't doing a destination thing.
Questions that are coming up: do we spend the morning together? Do we do first look at the church or before hand? Do we rent a hotel, or just stay home?Do we get something catered or go to a restaurant?
As we are planning this with no input from our families I can't reach out to my sisters or mom to discuss, I'd love some input from someone who isn't my FH...
Thanks for reading.

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Latest activity by Vinod, on October 16, 2020 at 12:39
  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
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    Your free to do whatever you feel is right in your heart. Keeping a few things in mind may be

    Hotels may not offer continental breakfast served, just a bag to take to the room limiting time with the family.

    First look photos can be answered by your photographer to know what would work better.

    Finding out pricing for catering vs. restaurants would be helpful to know if the amount is the same (food & alcohol).

    These choices are hard to make though in the end what matters is your day will still be special with everything you have done and looking forward to celebrating.

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  • Christiana
    Super November 2020 British Columbia
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    My input for all of your questions (except the catering vs restaurant) is do what feels right for you and your partner. There's no reason you can't get ready together or that you can't do your first look at home or another place, if that's what you want. If you want to go the more traditional route of not seeing each other before the ceremony then do it. Don't feel pressured to do anything other than what feels the most like you and will make you the happiest.

    With regard to catering vs a restaurant, if you go the catered route do you have a venue where you will have dinner? Or would this be like a caterer that comes to your home? That might be safest option given the rising case count in Ontario. I also think catering at a private venue/someone's home would be the safest option if you plan to have your family join you. If you don't have a venue lined up then a nice restaurant could be a good option, provided indoor dining is still allowed in Ontario whenever you plan to elope.

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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
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    I think you can stay where you're both comfortable. If you're getting married in the same town as where you live and already live together, I don't think a hotel is necessary unless you want to splurge a bit for yourself as a treat.

    You mentioned your families have no input on planning but will they be at least in attendance?

    What time of day are you eloping? If you want a first look for photos, you would want to do it when the sun isn't too strong for lighting reasons. If it's in the late afternoon, you can get great golden hour photos afterward.

    Does the church have a change room for both of you to get ready in or would you prefer to arrive at the church ready to go?

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  • Amelia
    Master October 2020 New Brunswick
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    Ultimately do what you want to do to make your day feel special. We had a very small wedding. We slept in the same bed and had breakfast together before we both left for appointments on our wedding day. I wanted to be well rested and I knew sleeping alone wouldn't make me sleep well.


    I booked a room at a b&b for my girls and I to get ready at and for getting ready and first look photos. It was nice to have a "home base" of sorts. My husband and I stayed there that night as his siblings were crashing at our house. It is an old historical building which I thought would make for nice photos.
    Since you're a super small party I would go out for dinner, and I would let the restaurant know it's for a wedding dinner when you make a reservation so they may give you a little privacy or maybe their preferred tables.
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