Wording for following up on people who have not responded by the rsvp date.

We are slowly getting more responses in. I have given up on my side of the list. Got an RSVP today saying they aren't coming because they'll be visiting family in Ottawa and Montreal but I heard a group (several from my list) were going to a Dixie Chicks concert in Ottawa. When a friend was there while they were discussing going to the concert, my friend was interested but when they said the date, she said wait that's the weekend of the wedding. They just responded no and continued their planning.

So that's that. My FH's family is still coming back with yes cards or messages but my side is full of nos.

We'll end up with 25% being from my side and 75% being from my FH's side.

I've honestly never even thought of this. Gonna read through the responses for when the time comes!

I actually hate hitting the reply button because then all the original posts are added to that response making it longer to find what people are actually responding. Especially when someone posts photos! all the photos are repeated again and again in the posts that people are responding too. I feel like it makes me read the original post 20+ times!

No wedding communication was done with good old fashioned rsvps.

Hi Leah! I think that you put it quite nicely! Did more people answer your RSVP? I really like the way you put the France without crossing the ocean part, that's really cute. I love it! When replying to a comment in the community, you can click "reply" at the bottom of our comments to leave a reply. That way we'll get a notification with your answer and will be able to continue the conversation. Do you do most of your wedding communications through Facebook?

I decided to put something on my facebook page instead of individual messages for now. Others who don't see it or never respond I will assume aren't coming but will send a message privately in March.

This is what I put:

Thank you to everyone who responded by the RSVP date! We are excited for all those who responded that they are coming and thankful that so many people who can’t make it will keep us in their thoughts on our special day in April. If you’ve forgotten to send off the card, please pop it in the mail or send me a message through messenger. If you are still on the fence, maybe this will help: Imagine you are heading off to a wedding in a quaint northern city in France where you’ll get to practice your French and immerse yourself in another culture without flying across an ocean! But we are biased since we love it here, it’s home. We’re excited to tackle wedding tasks during the Spring break which starts in a couple weeks so having our numbers will help us check things off our list before getting back into the mad rush of life with 5 kids.

I plan on using messenger. I don't have most people's personal emails since I communciate with my family through Facebook.

Hi Leah! I think it's a great idea to follow up! I think your words are a good start that you could mix with Sam's approach. How about something like: "We haven't received your RSVP yet so I just wanted to make sure that your invitation arrived. We are hoping you can make it and see the beautiful little northern city that we both love. Feel free to respond via text or through our wedding website, we look forward to reading your response!" How do like this? Let us know how it goes! Are you planning to follow up by e-mail or text?

I agree with the approach Sam took. I would just say, "I have not received your confirmation on whether you are able to attend and wanted to follow you. Please confirm as I need to finalize our numbers for our guests list. Thanks. " I find that calling or texting might be the easiest as people might not look at their emails as much. It really depends on the person. All the best.

Just send a message and say that the RSVP date is coming up and the venue needs to have the final number of how may people are attending

Sam nailed it (of course)! But yes, my plan is to wait a few days after the deadline (in case they mailed it on the due date) then call people so I can talk to them. People always claim to have "not got the message" or take a long time to get back on text/email/facebook. And I think it's a nice direct and immediate way to touch base. Unless of course they are international, then I will follow up with email/text.

I remember having to track down all our RSVPs! It took us about 3 weeks to get a hold of everyone. Some people might mail it on the 15th so you probably want to wait a few days before contacting people. How do you plan on contacting people? I texted mainly. I started by saying something like "We haven't received your RSVP yet so I just wanted to make sure that your invitation arrived. Please let me know! We hope that you can make it and look forward to seeing you soon!" Usually they'll be like "Sorry I forgot to send it! I'll put it in the mail tomorrow!" If they still don't mail it, then I think it's a good idea to say the "Feel free to respond via text or through our wedding website." Good luck!