Wondering what to do about inviting colleagues

1) If you think that they'll make your wedding more fun/you want them to come and have room for them, it's totally fine to invite them! Especially if you hang out outside of work hours, it's not a mix of life and work.

2) You don't have to invite everyone at your office, but it may depend on how large your office is. Mine is only 4 people, including myself so it'd definitely look bad if I invited 2 and not the 3rd. If anyone asked, you could site that you simply don't have the room (which is true for your reception space) as most people understand that.

3) I personally wouldn't do invites to Just the ceremony since mine is only 15-30 minutes long, most people go to weddings for the reception anyways.

1) I would say to invite them if you have room!!! Would you feel bad if you weren't invited to their wedding (either assuming they will one day or pretending that they aren't married yet)?

2) Not bad at all!! I'm only inviting 4 people from my work and out of those 4, none are my boss! Only thing that may come of this is that they might want to throw you a potluck/wedding shower of sorts (I know my work jumps at any chance to have a party!!)

3) How big is your office? Like I said, I'm inviting 4 people - out of an office of just under 100 people so I consider my office somewhat small...

4) I don't think it's rude at all - if it's an open invitation it would be fine, just don't send out wedding ceremony invitations as that may make it more personal than it should be.

I don't think it would be a problem to invite just the 2 friends and not everyone else. It is your wedding, and you do not have to feel obligated to invite every single person you know! The others should understand especially if you say you want to keep the wedding smaller, more intimate, closer friends and family etc.

Your bridal shower should be no problem. I know a lot of people who invite people to the shower and not to the wedding. If they are close to you and it is not in your budget, or space at the venue to have them at your wedding this would be a good option.

The only thing I wouldn't do is invite them just to the ceremony. Everyone moves together from the ceremony to reception (Especially if they are at the same venue, or closer in time) so you do not want to move your friends away from the reception, I just think it's a little weird.

As to etiquette, its ok to invite the 2 work friends only as to being close. Otherwise, the whole staff doesn't need to be invited just because of not knowing your getting married. I did invite only those from my workplace other than my managers since I know they wouldn't be able to attend and have to be at the store working.

Don't consider it rude, a gratitude that your co workers were by your side and to help you in any way possible. Be glad you in the short time, you have friends at work that can be counted upon.

Hmm!! I know your struggle I'm going through the same thing! My FH and I actually both got new jobs just over a year ago (just before we got engaged) and we decided due to invite limits we would not invite anyone from our new jobs. A year later I have made good friends with a few people here and started to feel really bad about not being able to invite them! I lucked out I was able to invite some of the ladies to my Bridal Shower and they all attended! But I told them no gifts as this was just a shower and I was still unable to invite them to the wedding. It went over fine for me!

I think your open invite to the ceremony only is completely reasonable! And I doubt anyone would be upset over it! Its your wedding and your decision!

Hi Kate!

I would invite the two friends only- The last job I had one girl invited few people to it all and then invited us a week prior with open invite to reception only and I couldn't make it. I wasn't offended or hurt by it. I was still excited to see all the photo's after and she gave me advice when planning my wedding. I am at a new job and getting married, my boss has been very supportive with giving time off and we talk about my wedding/gives advice. This office is very small but I only plan to invite them to reception only as we have our list already.

I think it is rude to invite people to the ceremony only- a reception is theoretically a “thank you” for people coming to your ceremony. People will understand if they are not invited- honestly. Invite the people you are close to and don’t feel bad about it. The exception to this is if you are leaving one or two people out and including everyone else. I wouldn’t worry about plus ones for work friends either- they can come together

Hi Kate!

I’m in a very close knit job also - I’m inviting everyone I’m close to on the floor (our firm is only a portion of the floor).

i think definitely invite who you feel close to. You don’t need to invite everyone.

I find lots of people don’t actually attend the ceremonies, especially if they don’t live in the area of the ceremony location. It’s up to you if you want to invite people to just the ceremony. I personally am not doing that just because if people are travelling for the ceremony, I should invite them for the reception as well. So whoever I’m not close with just didn’t get an invite.

You can definitely say youre having an intimate reception if anyone asks why they didn’t get an invite.