Will you call your in-laws mom and dad?

When it comes to his dad, I call him dad already and along with the rest of his family I call them aunty, uncle and refer to his brothers as a brother or sister in laws. When it comes to his mom, I made the mistake as calling her mom (out of respect) and it didnt go over well. She had lost one of her children so in her mind, she only wants her boys calling her mom and no one else can because her one son has been robbed of that. She does accept my son with calling her grandma though. So to each there own I guess and I have accepted it for what it is.

I call my on laws by aunt ________ and rhe rest od his family by names.

Nope!

We both still call each others parents by first name. It just feels more natural.

The only thing I can see happening is we will refer to them by whatever "grandparent" name gets selected when we have kids.

Sweet moment though; a few days after we were married my DH told my Dad that he is now his "son-in-law" and my Dad responded by saying, "No, just Son".

(I'm an only child)

I won't. His sister in law doesnt and it seems more natural to keep it the way it is. He isn't close with my mom and i dont see that ever happening on his end either.

I don't know if I can, my fiance already calls my parents mom or dad in discussions only, and it is very confusing. However, I don't want to seem rude if I don't call his parent's mom and dad after we are married. My parents never called each other's parents mom and dad; it was always Mr and Mrs. I know that seems formal but thats how it was done.

This will totally depend on whether my FMIL starts to actually treat me like family or not.. so far she will remain "Karen" after the wedding

I've always called them by their names but his grandmother I call Meme and his aunts and uncles I refer to them as "aunt____" and "uncle ____'

My FH already calls my parents mom and dad. I’ve called his parents Chuck and Jules (real names Charles and Julie) for years so I’ll prob keep rolling with the nicknames.

My dad jokingly has called my grandma “mother in law” and nothing else for years. She thinks it’s adorable and funny lol.

I like the idea. Fiance mentioned once how soon I would be calling her mom, in front of her. My parents called their in-laws mom and dad so it is what I grew up hearing.

My future BIL called my future in-laws by their first names, so I’m taking that as a lead to not change what I call them.

Definitely not! My FH's step sister was my childhood best friend, I've known their parents by their first names for almost 20 years

I'm still unsure!! Right now I just call them by their first name. But I hope we will be having kids soon after the wedding so we will probably be referring to them as Memère and Pepère.

We have been friends almost 23 years. I've been calling his mom "mom" for most of that time, so no transition needed! I call his step-dad by his first name, as my FH and his siblings do. And my FH calls my parents by their first names.

I think a great deal of it is what the individual being addressed prefers. It was the same way for my older sister and her hubby.

No mom and dad here. I was told to call them by their first names.

I won't have a mother-in-law as my fiance's mother died about 11 years ago but I don't think I will call his Dad, Dad.

I am not sure on this one. I know growing up as a kid my friends all called my parents mom and dad but if I called anyone else my mom would get jealous. But said and done if it comes naturally it will come.

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So sorry for you, Donna. I feel bad when families cut ties like that. If only they realized what they are missing. I have an issue in my family too. My eldest son lives with a women with whom he had 2 children. They are a bad mix but for the grandchildren I try to stay neutral. Just found out that only my son will be coming to the wedding but not his partner or the children. How disappointing! His partner said she's not going to watch me get married when she's been waiting more that 10 years for him to propose. I know he won't propose because they are like oil and water, they don't mix. It hurts but at least he is coming. So I know the disappointment you are feeling.

That's something that I am not sure. I hear it from my parents calling each other's parents mom and dad, and my future husband calls only my mother "ma", I just haven't gotten used to how it sounds coming from my mouth.

I hope not. I feel like that would be awkward

Nope. But that's not my style anyways.

I only have one mom one dad they deserve those names coming from me. When it comes to my partners parents they hear it from their son. They are defenitly loved by me but there is no other that wears those special names.

Mothers love

Sadly My In-laws are gone to the other side now.

Definitely not! My parents are my Mom & Dad, no one else gets that title. Also, my FH refers to his parents in conversations as their first names (he's not overly close with them). Plus to top it all off, we both come from divorced families, so that's a whole lot of "Mom's" and "Dad's". HAHA

His mom passed away when we first got together, and his dad will always be Lynn or Grandad (my FH has a son so he's Grandad when talking to his son)

Nope! They are like family to me but no one will compare to my mom and dad. I would been awkward calling them something other than their name.

Of course!

They are already family to me

I would feel awkward with it. Lol i mean, we say "mom" and "dad" when we are talking to each other, but talking to the inlaws we call them by their name lol

Thank you Kacy

Aawww sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear that!! sending you virtual hugs!

No probably not. I just don't feel comfortable with it.

Yes I will be already do

Definitely not....I can tolerate his dad, but have absolutely no respect for his mother. I will continue to call both by their names. His siter in law calls his parents mom and dad, if she only knew half of the shit her mother in law talks about her,....its sad really.