Who will be standing next to you on your big day?

View quoted message Hey Kendell!
It sounds like your friends are very understanding, and it really seems like there are no hard feelings. That's great! It sounds like the third girl will be happy just to attend the wedding, and isn't tied to being a bridesmaid. It will also help you save on cost if you don't include her in your wedding party.

We opted for a very large group of people, but collectively we are calling them our “I Do” Crew.
We have a BM and MoH but all our others are not assigned specific titles besides crew members. We have 10 total in our Crew. Honestly it could have been 0 or 10, but we couldn’t find a way to make it work in between. Now the true task is making each of them step up and support us until the wedding day comes when they all have such busy lives...

I’m having my younger brother stand up with me on my big day, he is the only person beside my fiancé I truly trust and I know he has my back in everything i do in my life I couldn’t think of anyone else I would want. So my fiancé is only having a best man. Small and simple 😊

We had our 2 kids stand up with us. They were so excited! They obviously had a lot invested in the day, too so it made sense for them to play very important roles.

I always wanted my sisters up with me but they are very unreliable and tend to make everything about them. Over the last few years I considered not having them and having friends stand up. In the end I couldn’t decide on what friends I could have up without hurting someone else’s feelings so I took the easy way out and am having my sisters stand up. My fiancé is having 2 of his closest friends stand up and because we couldn’t choose who was more important to us we decided to incorporate our parents in it. My mother will be my witness and his father his. That way all parents get to be a part of the ceremony.

Would I be able to get anyone advice on this.


We are having a very small wedding. Only siblings and parents. I have two friends I have been friends with for over 15 years so they are the only two friends invited and they are my bridesmaids. I have two other very close friends that we sadly arent inviting strictly to make it very known it is only siblings and parents.
One of these girls approached me the other day in tears saying how she just wants to show up for the ceremony and then leave just because she cant imagine not seeing me get married because it is extremely important to her. it broke my heart because she is an extremely close friends and if we were having a normal size wedding she would obviously be by my side. I talked to my fiance and said we have to invite her because it is clearly very important to her. I talked to the forth girl and explained I'm inviting the other girl and asked how she felt. She said it was totaly fine and she understand. She is also getting married the weekend after me so she is busy planning her own wedding and knows the struggles. So i have now decided to invite a third friend and leave out the forth girl.
My biggest challenge now is do I ask this third girl be a bridesmaid or do I just have her attend as a friend. I feel like it is already bad I'm leaving one girl out and it would make it worse to have the third as a bridesmaid.
Please give honest opinions?

We opted to go small and simple. My sister is my MOH and my brother-in-law is my FH's best man.

I always knew my sister would be my MOH but I figured I'd also have some bridesmaids but I got rid of a lot of toxic friendships over the years and I like to keep my circle small. I also didn't want to regret who I chose later on, so I'm glad we just stuck with siblings.

I'm not as close with my SIL but we're still including her in the wedding by having her bless the meal. That way - no one is left out.

We had just 4 total wedding party 2 each MOHs and BM (Best Man). They were standing up with us and the BM were also the witnesses to sign as well.

My FH had 2 Best Men and 3 Groomsmen, and then I had 1 Maid of Honour and 4 Bridesmaids. Easy pick for me because I have a sister - and then for him he couldn't pick! He knew them both so well and they were always the 3 of them so he decided that he didn't have to choose between them

I have one friend, one cousin, his sister and my 2 cousin in laws. ive always known i wanted these girls in my party since day one. there is one friend that i wanted in my wedding party but she told me from day one shes too shy lol!!

We don't have a huge friend contingent on our guestlist so we're keeping our wedding party small. I only have my 2 sisters as MOHs and my FSIL as a BM while FH has his best friend as his best man, and his brother and another close friend are his GM.