My Fiancé and I are putting together our guest list for the wedding - Mostly family a couple of friends -
My dilemma is I have about 15 people on my list and my partner has about 30-45 people. I am not one who wants to say not to invite someone - I don't want anyone feeling left out or slighted ..We had our list at about 30 - 40 combined which I thought was a great number for a small intimate day and wasn't something I was worried would be changing till expressed the desire to have his mom and dad's side of the family all of them invited. I think if you aren't in touch or haven't been in touch or spoken to in the last year why would they be invited? When I look at that guest list of so many people I don't know or aren't close with it makes me sad - and it makes me feel like the wedding is heading in a beach backyard kegger with too many people trying to fit in and as if we are throwing a party for all of them, not US and ourselves and our love and commitment
I'm not sure how to have this discussion with my fiancé without seeming like I'm leaving out his family or not wanting people he thinks should come be invited. I don't think the list needs to match in numbers but the cousin who couldn't get back to you all summer or the cousin's aunts or uncles you don't speak with .. Why must we invite?
I was thinking maybe we invite those closest to us for the ceremony and afternoon and in the evening maybe holding a little reception with everyone who wishes to join..? Any ideas - suggestions - things to help me breathe so I don't cry over this list one more time..
I want to note my 15 people are my hairdresser who is my friend - and the rest is my immediate family so I can't really cut my list in any way..