When planning becomes exhausting

View quoted message Thank you so much love I really appreciate the tip. I had not even thought about Facebook to be honest as I don't spend much time on it unless I'm talking to one of my bridesmaids.

Erin, just a suggestion, go to your local FB page for weddings and see if there is a wedding planner looking to build their portfolio. They are usually really eager, prices are good and you can often negotiate with them for even a few hours of help at a relatively low price. Good luck.

View quoted message Hey hun thank you so much for your comment and yes as of lately i have started to do the same thing.

I understand your situation, I struggle with getting burnt out too. What I try to do is take breaks as others have mentioned, but since I am such a avid planner lol, I dedicate one day out of the week for wedding research/vendor emails/venue viewing etc instead of trying to get it done each day. This helps me know that its not consuming my life and I can focus on other life priorities too because unfortunately nothing pauses for us as we plan away. I sort of took this approach with my fiancee too, I caught myself talking about the wedding "too much" so I made it a rule in my mind not to bring it up on certain days and allocate a time to discuss things with him. This way I would bug him a bit less and we could have 1 focused conversation rather than 4-5 throughought the week where he might feel burnt out and not as interested.

Take a break at times to enjoy movies or nature walks. It helps to take your mind of the planning process and focus on each task a day. This way it doesn't feel overwhelming. Making time with friends and going out to have fun is also a way of enjoying time out of the ordinary week.

Sometimes we get over our heads with what is still needing to get done and lose sleep over it. This is not what is expected and our other half feels its not what they want to be part of the plan for the most part. Certain aspects are a couple choices when it comes to rings and outfits/suits to choose that do matter to each of you personally.

It might help to take a break for a couple of weeks or so and let your mind think of other things for a bit. Once you're ready to start up again, you'll be in the right head space!

View quoted message Thanks hun and whoever told you that was a genius because it's so true the unfortunate part is the only person I really have to talk to about it is my fiance.

Take a break. One thing someone told me that stuck was planning a wedding is a marathon, not a sprint. It doesn’t pay to burn out.
Take a step back and when you do feel ready to go back, find someone who can at least support you if not help you with the work. Sometimes even having someone willing to listen to the complaints is worth so much.

I think it's important not to get overwhelmed. I know a lot of what you're doing is DIY so there's more work to do on that front but do remember to take breathers and do non-wedding related activities to refresh your mind. The last thing you want is to make the planning process a chore that doesn't feel fun anymore.

Not sure if you're splitting the tasks evenly between you and your fiance but if not, I would definitely get him to pitch in. Not all guys are anti-social when it comes to weddings lol

View quoted message Thank you so much those are great suggestions!!!!!

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That's too bad about your family

I think a break will be really good though!

When you come back to it try breaking everything down into smaller tasks. That way you can focus on one thing at a time. For example, instead of thinking about decorations as a whole, break it down into smaller categories like signs, centrepieces, backdrops, etc. I also really like making lists with my main and sub-categories - I find it helps to have everything in one place so I can just look at my list and see what I have and what needs to be done.

Good luck!

View quoted message I just might take a break for a while as I am just so exhausted and overwhelmed. Unfortunately no I don't have family that can help since my family is the type that will help as long as they call the shots and I'm not okay with that as for friends I have 1 that lives in the same city as me but we are both planning our own weddings haha just bad timing I guess.

It might help to take a break for a few weeks and steer clear of anything wedding related to let yourself recharge. Do you have family or friends you can ask for help?