When do you have your bridal shower?

It's interesting how things change. When my mom was getting married, it was completely common to invite EVERYONE to the bridal shower, whether they were invited to the wedding or not, but it was UNHEARD of to invite people just to the dance and not the dinner. Nowadays, it's the opposite for both! Considered improper to invite people to the shower who aren't invited to the wedding, but acceptable to invite people to the dance only.

All that to say, I think you can have a shower with friends who aren't invited to the wedding (since it's a family only wedding). I think close friends would understand. I would probably stay away from inviting people you don't see/talk to very often, and stick with just family and your closest friends who you see/talk to regularly!

View quoted message Hey! That's so awesome thanks for the input

First off, congratulations! Second off, I think you should do your shower sometime in May or June. I think that's plenty of time prior to the wedding for the shower, letting you enjoy the summer leading up to your wedding!

ALSO, we're wedding weekend twins! (Mines August 4th )

I would agree with Holly; 1-2 months prior to the wedding would be where you want the shower.

Personally I wouldn't invite anybody to the shower that isn't invited to the wedding as it may come off as a money/gift grab as that is what showers are usually for.

Is there any way that you could invite them to the ceremony and dance portion? Or even just the dance portion? If so then I would say it's fine to ask them to the shower.

If someone were to invite me to just a shower and not any part of the wedding not even an "after the fact" bbq then I would decline the invite to the shower. Just ask yourself what would you do if you were invited to the shower and not the wedding festivities? For me - the lack of funds for me at the wedding mixed with the invitation to the shower would make me feel like I am only thought of for bringing you a present and nothing more.

I'd say a good time to have it would be about 2 months before the wedding, maybe even just over a month before.
Typically yes, you don't invite anyone to the shower who isn't invited to the wedding because it's a bit rude but that totally up to you, there is no set of rules when it comes to who's invited to what. You don't really want to have a room mixed with some wedding invited guests and some not because the ones that are not will probably be offended, especially if they are mingling with invited guests. I'd suggest having a seperate shower with those who are not invited to the wedding, out of respect for them.