What kind of planner are/were you ?

I would say I have done 95% of the planning - but when we have been purchasing items, I have asked for my fiancé's input and try to create and/or find something that combines both of our likes.

It has been rough because I do have a specific vision and sometimes the future hubby is like the polar opposite. When this happens, I usually try and find items of all styles and send them to pick his top 5 and I will narrow it down from there.

Besides helping with input, I have been the coordinator, booker and main purchase of items through our joint wedding savings account. I have left him in charge to get the guys to rent or buy their pants (which has proven to be difficult).

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That's a sweet savings to put elsewhere, make sure it's someone you can trust and who is responsible if you do assign a friend. I was surprised the day of how much my husband and I socialized and enjoyed the party, the energy was up and everyone came to enjoy so if we had a strict schedule it definitely would have been lost lol.

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Sounds like you guys are in good shape for the big day!

We are planning the majority of it ourselves. We were considering a day of coordinator but so many friends have offered that we can find other places to spend the $800

My fiancee and I did most of the planning. I preferred customizing and ordering myself all the small details which I found much cheaper than getting the basic wedding favours and invitations others would've chosen. For example, my invitations were all virtual I used the website builder on Wedding Wire which was a perfect idea to get the RSVP's as quick as possible. The wedding favours I am ordering them on Etsy. We provided links for our family and friends to share pictures of us also. Thankfully, our hall offers coordinators. We booked the DJ, florists and dance groups ourselves and we just put them in touch with each other.

I will see how it goes the day of the wedding. However, so far the coordinations are going smoothly.

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I can so see why people hire a day of coordinator. As a bride/groom, you just want to enjoy the party!

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Love that that you both did it all yourselves!

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Sounds like you are ahead of the game - great job!

View quoted message That's great! I think we'll get a day coordinator too. I want to be stress free, the day of 😊

View quoted message We're getting married in Sept 2024 and picked our venue, but we're doing 90% of the planning. My FH is a graphic designer so he wants to do the invitations and help me make our centerpieces which is awesome! But agree 100%, I love working with Excel! 🙂

My husband and I planned everything out. No help at all we just had a day of Coordinator to help with set up and such but everything else we made the decisions ourselves no other help

Fiance and I are getting married in Sept 2024. And we pretty much have everything. Most of our vendors are booked since nov. 2022. The only thing we’re missing is cake & floral vendor.


What really helped and saved us from insanity is WEDDING PLANNER and EXCEL SHEETS!!! To keep track ☺️

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Agreed - some simple things take longer. Let's be honest, they have NO clue about the minor details. Hopefully he appreciates the small stuff

Sounds like you have a nice balance of the planning!

and haha yea I found in this industry most is done months ahead of time or you have to inquire because something you might not think will take long, will (my dress, a simple hem, took like 4 months just because the salon was so behind - also busy time with it being August).

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He tells me the wedding is months away, no need to plan early, silly, he is thankful I did most of it.

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Same here Carine. I'm doing the majority of it myself. My venue also takes care of everything. He figured out his own attire and some music selections (Ceremony & First Dance). I offer a couple of suggestions and sometimes he inputs, sometimes not.

I'm doing the most of it. But I found a venue that does it all, so I just needed to focus on the small details and dresses. He's taking care of his suit and the boys portion of the wedding. The date the venue chose it for us. He's slowly putting in his input, if I were to leave it up to him it would be done last minute.