What If Your Partner Planned the Wedding?

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I love how he would only hire an officiant if they only take cash

If my fiancé planned the wedding we would be getting married on our front lawn by the first officiant that cost less than $200 Cash only, followed by a bbq. He probably would have texted people to tell them to show up, and he would have wore his one and only suit in his closet- which I’m pretty sure he bought 15 years ago. Because that’s who he is. Lmao. There would be no fancy anything and we would be eating off paper plates (because we have a box of party supplies in the basement and they didn’t cost any extra money).....LOL. He is not much of a planner, hates spending money and is quite forgetful 😁
While we did not go with this suggestion, he was a great sounding board for choices and expenses. He helped keep me grounded and on track with spending, and surprisingly sprung for a few more expensive options here and there. His only request was he did not want a lot of pink and did not want to wear a pink buttoniere.

He always says leave the planning to me because that’s what I do best. So I guess if it were up to him, I’d be planning a wedding...haha... and here we are!

My groom would probably plan a wonderful bachelorette, lol. He'd cook for all of us, for starters. He's a little intimidated by the wedding planning in general, but one thing he does really want is a food truck. I'm up for that as long as we can find one that doesn't take away from the atmosphere of our venue, which is an important element for me.

If my FH planned my bachelorette weekend he would probably have planned some kind of D&D adventure that I would love but my bridesmaids would hate. So it would be interesting, but kind of unfortunate. I already know he wants axe throwing and gambling for his so it would be super easy, he doesn't drink at all so definitely nothing bachelor typical for his if I planned it.
All his wedding ideas have been good, I had more unconventional ideas than he did. I wanted his dad to give him away to me lol. It was a no go with multiple people though.
I love the frog idea you had, that would be so unexpected!

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2 weeks to get a wedding-ready suit? Dang, that's cutting it close! The time it takes to tailor the sucker would make me uneasy.

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We're more or less taking the same approach as you. I come up with the "operational" plan, she makes the decision based on the creative.

Mustard yellow is very summer...

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There's something very bonding about a bunch of guys staying together for over 24 hours straight and not showering the whole time lol

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Hahaha, my fiancee was a MOH and planned a bachelorette with phallic cakes and condom balloons. The bride legit complained that it wasn't "naughty enough."

My husband would have made our wedding upside down with all this procrastination and payments that wouldn't go through on time. His way of dealing with people isn't great at times which would have made me worried too. The best choices he made to take on tasks wise were wedding bands and officiant, though he didn't come through for the cake payment left to me at the end. HIs suit was procrastinated to buy which we had to do 2 weeks beforehand.

The whole planning was smooth and easy on my part as the vendors were easy to communicate knowing the information was provided precisely and online shopping for the small things and ended up spending half of the amount due to the delivery time delay or not arriving at all. It worked out better this way overall.

My husband actually had a lot of good suggestions when we were planning our wedding. He insisted we write our own vows, which I really liked in the end, and he wanted the theme songs from Spirited Away and Howl's Moving Castle to be played on the harp when we walked down the aisle. He is honestly better at being sentimental than me. We planned most of it together -- I usually did the research, but he came to look at everything with me and help make the final decisions.


We kept our outfits a secret from each other, but he would tease me that he'd be wearing a mustard yellow suit with polka dots and a red striped tie (like a clown)! If he had planned the wedding all by himself, I doubt it would have been as bad as all that; but he may not have been as well dressed as he was 😋

This is hilarious to think about actually!! We have discussed what we would like for our bachelor/bachelorette so I think he would do pretty good, although he doesn't think what I would like is "bachelorette" enough - weekend away with the girls doing a spa, wine tasting and then dinner and drinks out.

Then again, I dont think his bachelor is that big of a party either....he wants to go camping with the guys....but it is very him.

I like to think that if I left it up to FH to plan that he would ask a few girlfriends for help in planning. My biggest fear would be that he would go stereotypical bachelorette with far too many 🍆 themed events. I don't want Weiner straws, or pin the "hose" on the fireman, or any of that faux naughty nonsense.


I also hope that by now we would know enough about each other to plan something the other would enjoy. My fiance isn't a big drinker so I would probably arrange go karts, axe throwing, or paintball for him and his guys, and I would make myself scarce so they could have some guy time at our place to drink and play videogames afterwards, being the DD for the others if needed.