What does Mother of Groom wear?

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I totally agree with Bianca

Hey Kimberlee, my advice is to try to be paitent with her. I had my FMIL constantly asking me about attire colour and theme colours and whatnot and I honestly just didn't care. It's not that I don't love her, it's just that there's so much planning to be done for the wedding that I couldn't be bothered to dictate what others were wearing (aside from the bridal party).

Cut her some slack and remember that she is probably under an immense amount of stress. I'd say that you can't go wrong with a peach or floral dress at a cocktail length.

I am sorry she is treating you like this, I talk with my FMIL more than my FH about the planning. I agree with the others, try to reach out again, and if not maybe try to see if you can get her mothers mother's contact through Facebook or something if either of you use that. And if all else fails, just wear something nice that you feel comfortable in

I'm having the same discussions with my mom and my FMIL.
I told them about the style of the wedding (Summer, tropical theme, semi-casual, shades of pink, green and accents of gold) and said no long dresses. I thought that would be enough info for them to go shopping, but there's just so much hand holding.
Personally, I think it's a generational thing : I'm sure our parents' weddings were more traditional, whereas we're stepping outside of the box and throwing a lot of the "traditions" out the window! For me, I just don't want to restrict our mothers to something they might not like or feel comfortable in. Plus, it's one less decision to make!

I'd try again with your FDIL, but instead of asking what YOU should wear or do, ask her about the wedding : What's the style she's going for (theme, feel), what are the colors, is it more formal or semi-formal? As for getting in touch with her mom, why not organize a brunch the three of you? From there, you could ask for her contact info!

Hope it works out!

Bridezilla perhaps? As much as wedding planning is no reason to be rude - hopefully after the wedding she returns to her sweetheart self?

As for what to wear, do you know what the colour's are for the wedding? I would say that for my own Mom and FMIL I will ask that since my BM's are wearing a plum colour - that my Mom wears a purple of sorts. As for the FMIL (Mom of the Groom), I would say it's her best bet to wear his colour which is teal (but either lighter or darker).

When it comes to length and shoes and hair and etc. - I really don't care. So she may have a point there? I mean, just don't wear a mini skirt/hoochie mama/all cleavage type of outfit and we are good. The last thing I want is a Mom to look inappropriate but I doubt that anybody would actually wear something like that to a wedding anyway. Shoes are the same, as long as you can walk in them - and they are not runners/sneakers/flip flops, I don't have much opinion on the matter.

Hmm... the lack of communication isnt right. You seem to be trying hard to ensure you fit with her plans and vision but if she isnt giving you the time of day that's really not fair! My FMIL actually bought 2 dresses! Shes wearing a short red dress for the church ceremony and photos, and then a long gold dress for the reception! I love them both!!! She really wanted to wear red which I was fine with! Our wedding colours are purple and blue but I'm more concerned with people being happy with what they wear! I'm comfort over style 100%!!
It's hard to say, not wearing heels is fine! (My mom wont be wearing heels) though I would say a longer dress helps to hide this fact if you dont want that to be noticed! I would stick with her light coloured dress recommendation! She gave you that note at least you have something to go with! Maybe try some long and short dresses and see what YOU like! You can classy up a short dress too with a really nice sandle with no heel!!