Wedding Shower

Personally, I have hosted bridal showers before and also gave a gift. It doesnt have to be something big. Something small and personal would be perfect in a situation like this.

Like Joey and a few others have said, give a smaller gift or purchase smaller item(s) off the bride and groom's registry just in case. But this is sweet of you and should definitely be considered a part of your gift to them!

I also probably would give a gift, but a smaller one, maybe you could do a joint gift from you and your partner.

Still give a gift, but I think it can be something small. You are contributing quite a bit, and have your own wedding, but I think you should still give a gift. I co-hosted a shower for my friend and bought her a gift, but spent less on it than I have spent in the past on weddings I attended just as a guest.

When I've hosted/paid/cohosted for showers. I've still given a gift. but not spend as much money as I would if I was just a guest. The last shower 3 showers I've done. the other bridesmaids and I went in on something meaningful. and have spent 20-40 each. (one was higher because it was a customized NHL jersey).

I think as the host I think it's ok if you don't also buy a gift for the shower. Consider hosting the party as your gift for the couple (offering house, food, etc). Especially if your from an area where it's "expected" to give gifts for the shower along with a gift for the wedding itself.

I think “supposed to” is relative.

What if the three of you (hosts) went in together to give a framed photo or something the couple could use at the wedding (guest book?) so it’s of a more sentimental “and we got you a gift” than a “we bought something from your registry, even though we hosted your wedding shower”?

I’m naive so I would also want to think that the couple would not expect a gift from the folks who hosted.