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You can send a friendly reminder about the repsonse date for the wedding if they haven't done so. Those that don't reply back a day or two after, pass on them as not coming.

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Yeah, it's helpful to have something in place to send a reminder (and really, the email will obviously come off as automated so it doesn't make you look pushy) and be able to step away until the actual deadline and not obsess over numbers.

View quoted message Oh thats so useful! Good idea on the automatic reminder!

The website we used sent an automated reminder a week prior to the deadline. A few people still didn't respond after the deadline and we assumed it was a no and didn't bother reaching out. Because of covid, we also had a second list of backup invitees so we weren't going to dance around someone else's tardiness when there are others who wanted to attend.

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Proper etiquette??? To me, proper wedding etiquette as a guest is to not stress out the couple even further and leave them in a state of wondering if I am going or not. Proper etiquette is to respond in a timely manner.

We have been invited to 2 weddings this summer, a third one is coming up for my co-worker who eloped in Costa Rica that she is now throwing a huge party for the people who couldn't go and we have responded to both invites within a week of receiving them. We have also been invited to wedding parties, I have been invited to 2 bridal showers and 1 bachelorette and responded to those the minute I got them, my FH got invited to a bachelor party and he responded in 5 minutes after asking me if we had anything planned that weekend to make sure it wasn't a wedding we already said yes to.

View quoted message Yes, the word stressful is an understatement. When I read what you have written, yup makes 100% to me. Maybe I hold that guilty consciousness because I had someone tell me that its "proper etiquette" to reach out and ask. I dunno. But again why is it as a bride is it the responsibility to do that job. You have a very good strong point 😊

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I agree, and that would be the worse case scenario. I am the type of person who would saying something to their face and say well you didn't respond so there is no room for you and not feel sorry about it.

Since I am doing a micro wedding in Banff, I booked a dinner for 32 people, so including myself and FH we are only allowed to invite 30 people and seats are very limited after family. I have also been told by the venue there is no room to add more, so if they don't see their name on a place card, then they can go somewhere else. I am 14 months out from my wedding and I am already stressed, this is a stressful yet exciting time we are supposed to enjoy with our fiancé, not chase people and ask if they want to come, and I feel like if you got to chase them just for a response, they should not of been invited in the first place. All the people we are inviting are already booking Airbnb's because we asked if they would like to join us and they immediately responded with yes and what are the best places to book. We haven't even sent our save the dates or invites.

Not responding is a response to me and that is no.

View quoted message Girl that's exactly what my significant other said too!! Personally myself I get torn in between because you know all the purchasing of everything, but i also feel that no response well I'm gonna assume ur not coming so I ain't preparing for you! But because I've been married once before well i know how it goes where some don't respond but end up showing up🙄

This may just be me, but I am very against reaching out myself. I consider those who do not respond to us in anyway a no. You guys are the ones planning the wedding and getting all the last minute details so I think it is very annoying that on top of all the I now have to reach out to people and ask if they are coming or not. A lot of you guys are nicer than me, because that's a hard no. My friend is getting married next weekend and she said the same, if they didn't respond she assumes its a no and if they show up they better of brought their own chair and food!

I would reach out, maybe they didn’t get it or they forgot. This way you have a clear confirmation they aren’t coming.

View quoted message Ok! I kinda assumed I should considering taking into consideration dinner, alcohol and "midnight lunch" amounts also and even just seating.

You definitely should reach out just to make sure