Wedding Planning - Continuing or Pausing?

September 26 here, and still planning to go ahead. We’re hopeful this will blow over, and won’t be making a decision until early July.

Its hard this is such a hard time for everyone. i would continue planning on i mean businesses still need revenue right? do what you can and i guess give vendors extra time to respond?

September bride here, Im working on small things that need to be done. So I have been gathering items needed to finish them up. My wedding dress and vows.

Its so crazy these days and I've come to the conclusion this will go one for a few months. So im waiting until then to move forward.

One thing after another just not going right seems upsetting for the right reasons. Its a difficult time for many right now with the unknown happening of when business gets back to normal hours. Those who aren't in a good place will find a way where there is a will. Be patient and wait until your date to come and all will be okay by then. This is the time where most of us are not living the way we want given a new norm. Its just for the time until all this is cleared up and we get back to what we do best of getting some fresh air.

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We're getting married the same day and that's our plan at this point as well. And honestly, our guest list has gotten so much bigger than we wanted that I wouldn't even be upset if we had to downsize.

We're going to be sending out invitations in a couple weeks but it feels so strange to do it with so much up in the air.

View quoted message So far I'm less upset and gloomy than I would imagine too. Once plans started rolling they are hard to stop so it's nice to have a few alternative options again!


At this point we are both still working, not sure how much longer FH's place of work will be open for as they aren't essential and are running low on product without much hope of getting more stock. We won't lose a lot if we don't get deposits back, my biggest vendor worry is that our photographer won't be able to change the date.

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If the crisis is resolved but we're not in a solid enough financial state to host the wedding, we may consider an elopement but losing all the deposits would sting if we're in a position where we're trying to save money. Hence the alternate plans.

Though, as gloomy as my original post seem, it is pretty fun coming up with different scenarios on how our wedding could potentially play out. We're less preoccupied with trying to get that unique cool thing or super fancy element that at the end of the day was always more of a splurge than a necessity. I think seeing the economic effect this virus has in general pulled us out of fantasy land, which is not in itself necessarily a bad thing.

Ours is planned for October 2 and we're on pause for sure. The next thing to do is to order invitations but I don't want to risk wasting a few hundred dollars having them printed only to have to have them redone. In June or July we will need to make a decision about invites and the wedding date.


I'm not against downsizing to an elopement on the date we picked and having a reception after the virus has died off. We talked briefly and if FH's family isn't allowed to enter the country then we will postpone as it doesn't seem fair to have my parents and not his there for our wedding day.

Ours is September 26, and we are t panicking yet and won’t be making any recipes until late June. It’s still so early to know what it’ll be like in the fall. Regardless, we WILL be getting married even if we have to bring our guest list down from 90 to 45 if the government allows gatherings again. If not, it’ll still be us, our closest family, an officiant and a photographer.