Wedding Gift Thank Yous

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Glad I'm not the only one. We will definitely be sending Thank You cards just after the wedding but will also call them to say thank you and let them know we will be thinking of them on the day.

We have also received monetary gifts/cards from people that are unable to attend. We called to say thank you and sorry that they cant make it but will also be sending a thank you card with photo after the wedding.

View quoted message This is what I was thinking myself. You could send them a thank you card for the gift while saying they will be missed. Also if the RSVP's and money are from older people they will be expecting a thank you sooner rather than later.

Wait until the wedding is done and you have received the Thank You cards to send out to those who didn't attend too. Its the appreciation shown towards them for what they gave you.

Etiquette : you have 3 months after your wedding date to mail out thank you notes/cards.

Even though the gifts are already rolling in, you don't have to send your thank you notes now. Most couples will wait until after a few photos from the day are ready and include them in or as the card itself.

I'm gonna wait to send out my thank you cards, since I want to have a wedding photo on them! You can definitely call them ahead of time and thank them for the monetary gift, and then send the thank-you card after the wedding.

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I agree with Amanda on this one. Even though you have gotten the gift before the wedding, maybe just a quick phone call thanking them, and then send out a thank you after the wedding when you send them all out.

For me this would just make things easier to keep track of who has been sent one!

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This was new to me as well. I'm thinking of sending the thank you card before just because I would like to acknowledge their generous gift and let them know their presence will be missed on our day. Also since the gifts were in the forms of cheques I'm thinking it would be weird to cash the cheque and not say thank you right away, or not cash it until the wedding and have them wondering if we received their envelope.

I’ve never heard of this! I would personally send a thank you right away.

theyre giving it in advance of the wedding so I don’t think it’s nice to wait until after the wedding to thank them.

I think for the most part people who aren't attending may not expect to actually receive a thank you card at all... I'm with you and I definitely plan on sending them something because they were still kind enough to give us a gift. My point is, I don't think they will expect anything this early or maybe not at all - so I don't see any harm in waiting to send them out. Truthfully, I have been to weddings where I didn't get a thank you card so etiquette to some isn't the same to all.

Well then.... I've never heard of them sending a gift before the wedding - I have heard of some sending cards around the time of the wedding though so that would mean just sending them a thank-you card with the rest of them.

For this I would say that a phone call to thank them should suffice until you have a thank-you card with a picture of you and your FH on your wedding day. If I was in their shoes I would want that pic of the wedding day but want to know that you received the money sooner rather than later.

I personally am waiting until I send them all out. I want to send a picture of us from the wedding in the cards, so even for people who can't make it and sent a gift, I would still like to send the same card with the picture.