Wedding etiquette

When ypu book a vendor, in their contract is based a meal is provided by you. I had meals for 2 photographers, DJ and videographer. I was charged and only provided main courses instead of the sit down meal.

View quoted message Well then you can ask the DOC if she is staying for dinner. And tailor it based on her response.

Typically if someone is present for majority of the days events or even just majority of the dinner then they are fed, it's just a nice thing to do for them but there isn't a specific rule that they have to be

Emily Post' s book on wedding etiquette says that it is expected that you provide them dinner, but that it does not need to be the same as is provided the guests. As to where they eat, I suppose it could be in the kitchen or they could be provided something which can be eaten while standing.

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View quoted message I’m definitely wanting to feed them, I just wasn’t sure how it all worked with the coordinator since she won’t be there the full evening (just leading up to the reception!)

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Most venues will have a vendor meal cost as drinks aren't included.

I know some vendors won't want to sit at a guest table, but might eat in an out of the way spot. Talk to your venue about where vendors will typically eat.. this is something they should have experience with.

You should definitely feed those who are helping out with the wedding! Our photographer actually put it in their contract that we either provide them a meal or they will take 45 minutes to go out and grab supper. They included it because they had weddings where they were not fed. The venue should abide by the number that they gave you when you signed the contract. If it is a lower number now, they still have to accept the number you were given.

Any vendor who is there for the day should get a meal. Plus you don't want your DOC needing to leave your event because she's hungry! She should be with you all day!

View quoted message Luckily for me I am able to have an extra table for them to sit down and eat. Maybe explain the situation to your venue, just tell them that this table is not for guests it is for your coordinator and photographer etc. They should understand and hopefully not make it more difficult than it has to be.

View quoted message I definitely want to offer it. The venue is being difficult and has now adjusted the amount of people lower than what we were originally told. Some said that you can have a separate table? I was just going to put them with our friends table.
The venue is the only thing stressing me out right now!

I intend to offer them the choice to a meal, especially if they are working the full day with pretty much no break! I don't believe it is necessary but personally I'd say it should be, a few extra plates won't hurt the budget. Also have water available for them at anytime, especially hot summer weddings. I think the people you hire will greatly appreciate this gesture!