We are from different countries. What do we do?? Wedding here Party there??

Honestly it depends on your budget and what will suit you both the best. My entire family is from the Island right next to Antigua called St. Kitts & Nevis. I plan to have my wedding in Toronto and have as many of my family from the small island where both of my parents are from stay with my immediate family in Toronto. I am also planning on getting a discounted hotel block for those who rather have their own space. Depending on your venue you can get some good deals at hotels. My FH and I did discuss destination wedding over in Nevis to make things easier family wise however it would be much more expensive for our friends and bridal party when it comes to their hotel expenses. We wouldn’t have enough space in the family houses we have down there for everyone. So basically do what’s going to suit you and your FH the best . Oh also I forgot to mention Air Canada has many sales and it’s also better to book 4-6 months ahead to get the cheapest flights from the Caribbean to Toronto or vice versa. That’s what my mom always does when she’s travelling back home to Nevis.

What about a destination wedding? if not can you pay for some flights for his immediate family members? or yes you can have the legal ceremony and wedding here and do another reception party over there im sure his parents would help coordinate that or a planner in his country

Some couples have done a Destination wedding where you can have your reception with the guests attending that may not make it back here/vise versa as guests here not able to make it there.

Once you finish the Destination wedding, get back and arrange at your time to have another reception with guests here to celebrate your marriage. This allows everyone to come out that didn't make it to your wedding.

This being said, my brother/sister in law and one in law shared the head table to celebrate their engagement/reception together as one after the couple got married in India with their family there.

Like the others say - whatever works best! There is no correct way of getting married really.

However, if you are looking for what we would do if we were in your shoes:

I would say to do the legal wedding and a party in Canada (that way you guys don't have to worry as much about paperwork). And then as your honeymoon I would go to the Caribbean and do a little mock ceremony with the dress and all and then a reception there for them. If you already have your marriage certificate then you might be able to get a discount at a resort or whatnot too!

I would for sure wear your dress to the second party - as long as it fits in the suitcase there and isn't going to be too hot for you to wear there

My FH's Amma (Grandma) is too old and fragile to make it to his 2 cousin's weddings last year and this past July and won't be at our's this October either - so we fully planning on going over to her house to play the video of our ceremony and I will try on my dress for her just like one of his cousin's wife did

Do whatever works best for the both of you, and what makes the most sense. You can do a big wedding in one place and then just a party/ reception in another place!

When my sister got married she had the big wedding in Australia, and then when she came home we had a reception for her, but it was a low key party.

I think it will totally depend on your budget. I have a friend who had 2 weddings in 2 different countries, one in Canada (civil) and one in Brazil (Catholic). The Canadian wedding was more simple with fewer guests

I think you have to do what makes sense for both of you. If you want, you could do a formal wedding in Canada, followed by something with his family back home? I don't think there's any hard and fast rules about what to do, I just think planning a wedding back in his hometown might be difficult from afar, so something small might be more realistic.