Walking down the aisle help!

A special task you could give your mom is helping into your wedding dress/ doing up your dress, and helping you get ready. She could even show you to your bridesmaid and hand you off to your brother 'backstage' before she takes her seat. You can always have your mom be escorted by the groom as sort of the start to the procession.

Just a few ideas?

I agree you need to just be honest with your mom. If you wanted to give her an important part to make her feel included what about having her give a welcome to the family speech to open the reception.

I really like like the idea of no one walking me down the isle and going by myself but I know that would break my dads heart. So instead I’m hoping that I can have him walk me to the end of the pews and walk up the last little bit myself.

I think it’s really beautiful you asked your brother, and it probably means a lot to him. I would just be honest with your mom. My mom will walk down the isle alone before the wedding party. Since starting to plan a wedding, i have realized people get bent out of shape over things that I didn’t consider a big deal. In the end, there is no pleasing everyone. Lol

I think you just need to be honest with your mum and explain how you feel. Hopefully she understands. You could put her in charge or welcoming guests and giving them programs or taking them to their seats.

I would just honestly explain to her that you would like your brother to do it, she should understand
if she is upset you can discuss with both of them the different alternatives

It is your wedding, but I also think it's important to consider family's feelings, since they will be in your life forever. My SIL had wanted to walk down by herself, but her dad assumed he was walking her down, even though they had a strained relationship right before the wedding. What someone suggested to her helped her make her decision. Who does it mean more to? She realized it meant more to her dad to walk her down the aisle than it meant for her to walk solo. She did let her dad walk her down the aisle and she does not regret that decision. So, now I ask you...who does it mean more to? You to have your brother, your brother to walk you down the aisle, or your mom to walk you down the aisle?

Yah...i almost had this issue come up, as my mom thinks it should be my dad doing this...but our relationship has been quite strained over the years (including him having had the adacity to call me, a teacher stupid!) and i have no desire to be "given away"...so i'm planning to walk down with my FH.

I think its your wedding, and that you should always do what you want, while trying to include your family the best way possible. Maybe your mom can walk down the aisle alone, and you can still walk with your brother. I think you should have a heart to heart with your mom and let her know what you want and see how it goes. also maybe try to include her in other parts of planning the ceremony, so she doesn't feel complete offended. But at the end of the day it is your day, and you should enjoy it the way you want to! Hope it all goes well