Vow Renewal Etiquette?

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Congratulations on your 20th! I agree! If you make it to 20 years with the same person why shouldn't you celebrate with what you want! It's your day, let the good times roll!

I think as long as it is clear what it is (no one is misled to believe you are actually getting married) it is fine.

I am planning our 30th wedding anniversary and vow renewal and I plan on having my dad walk with me even though etiquette dictates this is wrong, but he couldn't attend the first one due to family drama, and I am having my dad this time and I don't care what people think! I am also going dress shopping with my entourage, but no Kleinfeld's for me. I am going to keep my gown a bit understated in an evening gown style. My son and daughter are going to officiate and we are going to have a gorgeous tent style reception and dance by an old manor. It is going to be FABULOUS!

Etiquette -schmeiquette! I think it should be whatever you feel represents you and your spouse! My husband and I are planning a vow renewal for our 20th Wedding Anniversary in 2021. It will be a more intimate and mature wedding-style ceremony with reception. Because none of my husband’s family could attend our wedding in 2001, we want to make it a special day for them as well. Plus, who doesn’t want to wear a beautiful dress again?

I mean, I agree it should be smaller and more intimate. You wouldn't want to throw a humongous reception that would make people feel like they have to give presentation all over again.

As for the ceremony - that should resemble your original IMO and just have it updated to still loving each other and thanking them for what you have gone through already, and if you have any kids then incorporate them too

IMO I think it should. But that’s only what I would want. My opinion has no merit on what you feel is right. I love seeing the individuality of different weddings and ceremonies (and vow renewals). So do what makes you happy!

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I love this idea!

We're going to have family and friends but still a very small group of only 25.

I think that's still quite low key.

I think it really depends on you as a couple and how you see it.

For many people who didn't do a whole big wedding, eloped, etc. they may want it to feel more like a wedding.
If we do a vow renewal somewhere down the road, I think it would just be family on an island as that is what we originally wanted to do, but changed our minds due to some family members being unable to travel

I disagree because just like a wedding it should be whatever you and your husband want and what works for you and makes you happy.
My friend and her husband plan to renew their vows in the next few years and she's basically planning a second wedding, I know other people that did a destination renewal. It really just depends on what you want the day to be like. Want a second wedding?!? Go for it!

View quoted message One of the reasons we eloped was my mother was aggressively pushing for a huge wedding planned by her. We didn’t want that and we got tired of her loud rants about the topic. I’m sure my mother won’t make a peep this time because she knows that we won’t stand for it.

When we renew our vows, we’re going to have a ceremony with my dearest dad walking me down the aisle. The poor man wept when we eloped because he didn’t get to walk me down the aisle or see his only daughter get married.

We’re going to have a two tiered cake. I’m also going to wear a simple wedding gown and veil. Etiquette guides frown on such elements at a vow renewal but I’ve finally decided to just do what I wish.

As we haven't been married yet, our vow renewal will probably look like what our wedding would've if my parents weren't helping out, and therefore influencing parts of the wedding.

If we ever do a vow renewal, it'll be a small affair with immediate family and close friends - and on a beach somewhere!

Vow renewals can be done when you feel is ready. My husband and I won't be doing that until 5 years down the road and something small within close friends and family in town.

It all falls on when the couple wants to do it and how they feel it should be done. A large gathering of family reunion is an idea to have you two do something with them present. There may be other ways to incorporate the vows in a event with people close to you.

I think it depends on how the first time went, if you had a big to do orginally then i don't see the need for a re do but if you had a small ceremony and a little reception or no reception at all then i could see your desire for a more grand affair.

I agree, I think the vow renewals should be more low key, and only a ceremony. I also believe the renewal should be more like you and your hubby. Our you, hubby and the kids, not the whole family and friends