Venue Hunting

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That's great news, congratulations!

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Funny, because after seeing others comment about knowing when its right to stop all other tours. We talked over the weekend about it and decided to cancel the other tours we had lined up for the next two weeks and said this was the one. We saw 4 in total, 2 was a definite no, and the other one was almost there but like you as well, the price was a little much and we would be way too much over budget. So ultimately we are deciding on the one we both love and know we can make it work within budget. The good thing is that we are doing winter and the venue of choice has all our dates available (we have like 4 dates for flexibility). So it is pretty exciting!

I wouldn't get too caught up in making sure you see as many venues as possible. We only saw 3, one was an easy no, the other two were close and we knew we would be happy with either. At the end of the day the big factor in the venue we chose was that they were great with communication, answering questions promptly, etc. and the price was a little bit better. But I think if you are confident in this venue you should book it or see about putting a hold on your date! We had a little more time because we aren't getting married till 2023 but I know 2022 is booking up fast.

We researched 25 venues and visited 12. We were pretty much on the same page with very minor preferential differences that wouldn't have bothered either one of us if it's what ended up being picked. Once we saw our venue, we knew it was the one the others needed to beat and though there were options in the running, we were confident with our choice due to the thorough research. We had none of these nagging "what if" feelings as a result.

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It sounds like it's perfect! If you're able to put a hold on it or something while you see the other one I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with that. Especially if the other one is a viable option and you really want to see it - you never know you could have ideas about how to make it work when you see it in person. But it would be really awful if you lost the date you wanted for this venue because you were looking at others before committing.

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That's great to know that there are others out there like him and I. As for looking at wedding venues, There is one that I really like and want to check out but now that you've put it in that perspective, I feel like I should cancel it because it's way out of budget for us. Like we can make it work but it wouldn't be the dream wedding with all the extras I would like to add. This one place really does check off all the boxes. Its even a pet friendly hotel so we can bring our pup without having to pay for a watcher.

We have a pros and cons list for all the places we checked out so far and places where we have gotten information from and this place does not have any cons. like at all.

I am sort of like your fiancé in that I'm extremely particular. My husband probably would have been okay with booking any of the venues we looked at but I found multiple things wrong with all of them except the one we chose. I think he found it a bit disheartening to look at venues with me for this reason lol. We toured maybe 4 venues and when we found the one we booked we instantly knew it was the right one and booked it the same day. We could have kept looking but we both loved it and it checked all the boxes. So I guess he got that experience of seeing me absolutely love a venue after being disinterested in all of the previous ones.

Honestly if you both really love this venue I don't see anything wrong with stopping the hunt and just booking it. I would only keep looking if there's another one you're really interested in and you think might overtake it as the first choice.

I think you sort of need to think of it the same way as wedding dress shopping or dating hahaha. You don't keep looking once you've found the right dress or the right partner. But if you're not set on this one and there's another few you think could be the winners definitely keep looking. Just let your fiancé know that it will put you at ease to check out a few more, but the one he likes is your favourite out of what you've seen.

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I am also taking caring of making sure we are on budget while looking at places and the overall planning. Which I don't mind because I have the type of personality to be analytical and organized, I literally strive off these type of things. Since we are splitting the expenses 50/50 for all things wedding, it doesn't matter to us which of us picks up a certain expenses because it is all going to the same account that its going to be paid out of. It was just nice to see the spark of joy in his eyes because before it was a look of disappointment for the most part when we checked out the other places. Just like you as well, the place that he loved the most so far is by far the cheapest and offers way more than other places.

My husband did show interest in venue hunting though he knew of one near by half hour drive which was a fantastic place being waterfront view with activities available to enjoy. The price was great as well as I compared to another venue just walking distance to our home and they were quoting for double the price of the guests meals alone. He also showed interests in some of the areas while I did most of the planning. He offered to pay for the bands, Officiant and the cake (I ended up paying for it at the end). It was nice of him since he knew how much I was taking care of the budgeting and planning.