Venting space

View quoted message The top half isn’t so bad. I don’t understand the sparkles, but the too half could pass as elegant formal attire. The bottom half, well, I’m not a fan of mermaid dresses in
general, but this looks like it’s literally from a fish’s tail.

View quoted message Omg.. is she joking maybe? 😂 I mean it could be worse..it really could!!

That dress leaves me speechless, and I think not in a good way. The only thing I can think of saying to her is to maybe have a backup as there is not much room for body changes and you don't want her to be consumed with worry about not fitting into the dress at wedding time

Oh...oh my....that dress....

I agree with Julie, it is OUR day and some people don't realise it. It is the one day we are allowed to dictate what people wear (haha)- I have been in weddings before when I was not a fan of the dress I had to wear, but you suck it up because as a bridesmaid you as supposed to support the bride and the decisions she makes.

Do you think you will say something to her? Is the colour at least on par with your wedding colours?

Wow. I'm speechless... I truly do believe that there are People in our lives who don't realize this is our day. When it's their we'd never do this to them. Some People only think of themselves and dont care or don't realize that the things they do and say stress us out to the max. I've been in several Wedding Parties and bought what I was asked to buy, helped everywhere I could without complaining and certainly never said things to the Bride just to have my opinion given. Shes taken it to another level with this dress. I feel for you!

View quoted message Wow, just wow....

View quoted message And also... you have the right to let her know that you aren’t comfortable with her wearing that to your wedding. It’s your and your fh’s vision, and as a bridesmaid she should support that. If she was just a guest it would be a totally different story... but as a bridesmaid, you have a say in what the bridal party attire is

View quoted message Not to sound judgey on someone’s style
choice... but I’m with you! It a fan of that dress in any way!

Update: the dress. I don't know what she was thinking, guys. I hate it so so so so so much.

I have similar situation as you! exact same thing except for she is employed but she will take me in dresses on local swap sites and then say this would look nice you should get it for flower girls. It basically seems they all expect me to buy the flower girl dresses and the ring bearer attire.. which I won't be. I asked all parents ahead of time if they could afford it before asked the kids so they aren't disappointed if ask the kids first and not allowed. It wasn't an issue until now. I would be extremely frustrated and just ask if she kept the receipt as you would like to go shopping still and find something that matches your colours and wedding.

My gosh, I honestly would just straight up tell her "I hope you can return it or find somewhere else to wear it because you won't be wearing it at my wedding..."

You could always even play it off as "Oh, I thought you were kidding about buying it - it's just so not what I wanted and you didn't even send pics before buying so I thought it was a joke, like 'look how hideous this one is, I'll pretend it's for her wedding'"

If you're fine with her wearing something you think makes her look bad, I mean - you're right. She did it to herself

All I can say is that trying to help organize my FH's family's travel and accommodations is like herding cats.

That really SUCKS Robyn! I'd be livid if anyone of my girls did that to me! I looked up 80s Dynasty costumes and I feel bad for her for having to wear this now!

One thing that's stressing me out is that my bridal party is all over the place, and it's hard to get everyone in one spot of bridal shower/bachelorette. My mom is making a big deal about it, saying it's my girls' duty to come out to these events but I understand they have lives outside of the wedding (i.e. work, school, etc). We are trying to figure out dates that work for most people, but it's super stressful.

Oh that would be so frustrating! I would be so angry if one of my bridesmaids did that! I can't believe she went behind your back and purchased the dress before showing you pictures.

Venting from me: My sister (a bridesmaid) and her husband don't like my FH....never have but can't give a reason as to why. They are literally the only ones who feel like that and I can't wrap my head around it. She wen't into great detail about the fact that she doesn't like him (also decided to tell me I was a crappy maid of honour at her wedding....despite the fact that I actually went above and beyond) Anyways I know she thinks I am marrying my FH just so I won't be alone because she, who is 4 years younger then me got married first (obvs not true). My sister and I used to be SO close before this. Anytime I bring up the wedding in her presence she seems to get annoyed (as noted by my Mom). I hate talking about it in front of her...years ago when I dreamed of getting married I couldn't wait to share the details with her....now I feel like I can't. All of my other bridesmaids have super busy lives, which I totally understand. But I find myself hesitating to ask them anything in the bridesmaids group we have on Messenger, or share anything...because my sister is in that as well. I thought that this would be super fun and exciting time with my friends, but because of this issue its just...not. I couldn't NOT have her in the wedding because I didn't want to look back years from now and regret it, but at the same time I'm feeling stressed that she will be standing up there with me on my wedding day, all while both of us (and my FH) know full well that she is NOT a fan of him at all.

I want to thank all of you girls here....I should have started posting in the community a lot sooner then I did! I finally feel that 'wedding excitement'. You are all so supportive and kind, and it has been SO nice being able to share the fun little details, and to ask little questions about things. You may not be in my wedding party, but I finally feel like I am having the engagement experience I always thought I would have when my time came

Not gonna lie if one of my girls went behind my back and got a ugly trashy dress I'd be telling them exactly what was on my mind 😂 but I have no filter like 90% of the time, things just slip out..
Since we are venting...one of my bridesmaids has been driving me absolutely crazy!! I let them all pick their own dress (with my approval) and she has changed her dress like 3-5 times.. to be completely honest idk what dress she's wearing.. on top of all that I think she's jealous of the MOH because she's always making little comments here and there about her.. and now it seems like she's going to be giving me a hard time over their shoes I picked out for them. The stress never ends till the planning does unfortunately! 3 more months of this for me and I'll be free!!! Lol

Oh boy. I wouldn’t even know what to do in that situation! I guess at the end of the day that just means you will look super amazing in pictures, and maybe she will regret it afterwards?
I’m with Michelle! Would love to see a picture of it

OOO, I would be upset. Can you show a picture?