Uneven bridesmaids vs groomsmen

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I actually think I like the idea of not having a "wedding party" per se. I don't have many close friends, whereas my fiancé has many friends he considers to be groomsmen-worthy. I am afraid that if I were to have three of my closest friends up there with me, but my fiancé has more than three groomsmen, then it may be awkward especially because my other two good friends will be a guest and not part of the wedding party. They might wonder well why the hell am I not up there? I hate all these labels. I don't want to create awkwardness between friends, nor do I want it being so apparent that I don't have nearly as much friends as my fiancé does haha! I really don't know what we're going to do.

I have no clue yet for the guys yet! Probably a tie though! Bow ties aren't really their thing!

That looks amazing Chelsea!! What will you do for the groomsmen?

Will they be wearing a tie or bow tie in the same colours as the bridesmaids?

The dress my friend is wearing, but in the purple colour of the other dress and the flower bouquet is ivory roses with ivory ribbon (the photo is blush gold).. it also won't be that large!

Hi Chelsea Welcome to the community!!

I'm so glad you got helpful comments for everyone in here!! I also agree with Melissa, Valerie, Simone and Nelly said. The most important is to have the people who matter the most by your side, no matter the number.

And I think the photographer will definitely be able to work out something nice for the pictures!! I definitely won't look odd!

How are your bridesmaids going to dress?

Thank you everyone!! this makes me feel better and more confident in our choice

It won't be weird, it's not a problem. Your pictures will be around forever and you want the people in your bridal party to be meaningful, and your photographer wil know how to pose your bridal party

I don't think it will look funny but very interesting. I think that you can pull it off especially in picture based on how everyone is positioned. Go for it!

They absolutely won't look funny!! Uneven wedding parties are pretty common now-a-days! You can easily have each groomsman walk down the aisle with 2 bridesmaids. I would personally just avoid posed photos that would make it look VERY lopsided, photos like (I can’t find an actual example at work) BM BM BM BM Bride&Groom GM GM (like lining them up on either side of you).

But no, when you look back at your pictures you won’t think… “oh it’s so weird that I had more BM than he had GM”, you’ll just remember the people you cared for most being up there with you

I think you have the right idea- choose the group that will be most meaningful for you, no more, no less.

Nevermind what other people are doing! I'm not having any wedding party at all! I thought it would be a complete non- issue, but I've still managed to offend people Just do what makes your wedding right for you

Okay great thank you so much! I try not to think about it but anyone I know has always had an even amount and walking down the aisle in couples and such. I have 2 sisters and then 2 best friends on my side and he his his only brother and his uncle. We chose who our closest family/friends are to be up there with us and we didn't want to just put in 2 people on his side just so it is even

I don't think it will be weird- I mean of course you will notice in pictures that there are more women than men, but I don't see it as a problem. Just changes how some photo poses might look.

I see no issue at all! and it sounds like your FH has a pretty clear mindset, which matters a lot!