This might be a bit long but it's causing me anxiety...
My Fiancé and I like the idea of a destination wedding and our friends/family are on board however, we still legally need to get married in Canada. Most people I know have a very simple legal wedding just for formality (ie. in someone's house) but here is our 'conundrum'...
My fiancé's grandmother is still alive but is the only one the for sure cannot travel (she lives approx. 10hrs from us) and we would like to include her if possible. The current options...
1. Micro wedding in Grandma's area: small ceremony/reception with bridal party and approx 20-30 guests...
My concern with this is asking our wedding party to be in two weddings (both of which require travel) plus who do we invite or not. We would want/need to keep this micro due to limited budget.
My fiancé says his grandma would understand and we can just make a point of going to visit her and take her for a special dinner. My grandparents passed not long before my fiancé proposed so it is hitting harder for me I think.
2. Very small & intimate ceremony right before taking off for a planned holiday in PV, Mexico, turning the trip into a honeymoon
This would include us, my parents, and his mom only. Super small/quick with a restaurant dinner afterwards. This would be farther away for travel but less people involved.
The other thing I need to keep in mind is that my dad is older as well and even though he is currently in good health we can never guarantee how long any one will be with us or if he will be able to travel to a destination when the time comes (minimum 1 year, possibly longer)
Sorry for rambling...my fiance is trying to help me best he can but also wants me to do what will make me happy. I think I'm personally leaning towards the small & intimate ceremony but feel bad if we don't try to include grandma.