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Holly
Expert June 2019 Ontario

Together or apart?

Holly, on December 28, 2017 at 23:23

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So this has been a big topic of discussion with my girls and also my fiance. My fiance and I live together and at the time of our wedding we will have been living together for almost 3 years. So when the traditional spending the night before the wedding apart topic came up we weren't really sure of...
So this has been a big topic of discussion with my girls and also my fiance.

My fiance and I live together and at the time of our wedding we will have been living together for almost 3 years. So when the traditional spending the night before the wedding apart topic came up we weren't really sure of what to say. To this day we have never spent a night apart since probably September/October 2016. So we came to the conclusion that we don't really care about that "traditional staying the night apart" thing and we will likely spend the night together as usual.

What are your thoughts on this topic? If you live with your FH, will you be together or apart the night before?

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  • Lydia
    Devoted June 2019 British Columbia
    Lydia ·
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    I don't think you really need to spend the night before apart, especially since you've already been living together for quite a long time anyways.
    We have the same thing, though I actually am spending the night apart, but that's more out of necessity than out of traditional views (we'll be having a day wedding with the ceremony around 11 and it's not close to our house nor those the venue offer bridal rooms so probably going to rent a cabin overthere to be able to get all the stuff we need up there the previous day and so that my bridesmaids and me got space to get ready)
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  • Holly
    Expert June 2019 Ontario
    Holly ·
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    I think regardless of if we stay the night together or apart we will see each other for a bit before we get ready. I want as much time with him as possible and I think seeing him before we get ready will be nice, then the next time we see each other I'll be walking down the aisle, I also can't wait to see his face! I'm also not sure if all my bridesmaids will want to stay the night in the hotel, some have kids so might not be an option.
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  • Helen
    Frequent user September 2018 British Columbia
    Helen ·
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    We're going away for the wedding, but we're arranging to be apart the night before in the hotel. We really want to see each other walking down the aisle for the first time; I can't wait to see that face when he see's me coming.

    I want my best gal beside me when I wake up and have that girlie bond for the last timeSmiley smile

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  • Holly
    Expert June 2019 Ontario
    Holly ·
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    I was thinking of doing that too. My fiance and I really don't want to spend the night apart but I was thinking as an alternative we get 2 rooms, seperate floors one for me and my bridesmaids and the other for him and the groomsmen. But we have like three or four ideas all up in the air so until we can settle on what for sure, we are sticking to spending the night together lol
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  • Meghan
    Frequent user August 2018 Newfoundland and Labrador
    Meghan ·
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    I’m going to spend the night before with my bridesmaids in the hotel that we’re going to be getting ready at. That way I figured we could all just get up that morning and start getting ready and not have to worry about people running late and missing hair/ makeup appointments!
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  • Joey
    WeddingWire Admin May 2015 Maryland
    Joey ·
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    It's totally up to you! There isn't a right or wrong answer to this question. My DH and I spent the night before the wedding apart, partly because I liked the idea of the tradition of not seeing each other the morning of the wedding, and partly because it was convenient to be sleeping in the place we'd each be getting ready in the morning.

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