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Rachel
Frequent user September 2022 Alberta

Tiny Wedding

Rachel, on October 18, 2019 at 12:17 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 13
I'm having a hard time making peace with our tiny guest list. I dont have any family and we aren't very social people. Our guest list is just over 30 people, and that's including people we may invite to keep FH family happy.


Feeling a bit guilty and ridiculous spending so much money on a wedding for a handful of people. Our venue for ceremony and reception was $1200 without food or drink or decor, so we probably could have rented out the back room of a restaurant for cheaper, but I'm already skipping the first dance as I feel it is too intimate for dancing to make sense, I didn't want to compromise my venue as well.
Tldr; I guess I'm just looking for advise that a tiny wedding can still be fun, and that we're not being crazy for not just eloping or hitting the courthouse it would be much appreciated !!

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Latest activity by Cynthia, on October 19, 2019 at 22:33
  • Cynthia
    Curious August 2020 Ontario
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    My ceremony is 10 ppl
    Reception is approx 35.

    We chose a fancy restaurant as we are not big party people so no need for open bar or dancing night away.
    Guest with have a choice of meal + our signature drink along with a wedding cake.We may do first dances unsure yet...
    We will be set up beside a piano/player, with a small dance floor. Also my cousin will be playing guitar and singing.
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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    You two need to know this your day and however you choose to invite and where you want to celebrate will be your choice.

    Small or big, your guest list is whom you feel is to be present to see you get married as to the family that is close to you as well. Venues will cost more if your considering just the room itself and have to put more money into catering, décor and tableware related items.

    Restaurants do accommodate to a maximum that will be affordable for the same cost of food and drink given meal options of 2 (salads, main course and dessert) or cake as your main dessert.

    You will find the right venue at the right budget.

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  • Rachel
    Frequent user September 2022 Alberta
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    That's true! I know most people have trouble cutting down their guest list so I shouldn't complain. I'm so glad to have WW to just vent and have people talk some sense into me!! Smiley tongue
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  • Liga
    Devoted June 2021 Quebec
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    Can you imagine if you would have 300 people at wedding...and to have open bar for all of them and cakeSmiley smile OMG...that would cost a bundle....What a size of cake then I would need...Smiley winking And to take photos with all of them!

    There is a lot of pluses to have a small wedding!

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  • Liga
    Devoted June 2021 Quebec
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    Ashley....Right on point! Smiley star

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  • Ashley
    VIP August 2020 Ontario
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    Who cares how big or small your wedding is!! youre gonna be surrounded by amazing friends and family and can actually talk with all of them and really enjoy yourselves. im having people at my wedding i dont even know/ barley know/met once. im paying a crap load of money for people i dont care about but because theyre family they want to come. trust me i would rather a smaller wedding!

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  • Liga
    Devoted June 2021 Quebec
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    Emma...WOW...My wedding will be smaller there yours...Smiley smile But we want to make intimate supper time, but pleasant cocktail hour and fun time after supper...with Brazilian dancers who will open dance floor. Since we will have open bar, hope it will keep people happy! And we have DJ, MC, Dancers. I will manage to play out who will get my wedding bouquet...and the winner will get gift card. So...I treating this small wedding like a birthday party! Nice thing of small wedding...everyone will get our attention! Our party and ceremony will be in the same location...it will be in big private club..with more rooms...but it will be just perfect size for 30 people wedding!

    If we would have more close people I would invite. But some of my friends live too far away. In Switzerland and UK, Italy.

    So I think...it s your day...enjoy it even if it is small wedding...it is still special!

    For small wedding...exactly...you dont need to rent party room...you can use hotel or restaurant...when you get room for free since you will have all the food ad drinks there.


    I would suggest choose the place where they have wedding package...then they will have tables, chairs, dishes, food and drinks...and you will need to think only about decors and maybe some mini activity during the evening!

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  • Rachel
    Frequent user September 2022 Alberta
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    Cards are a good idea! Other than the shoe game I'm having a hard time thinking of other low-key activities, but I'm sure our loved ones will have a good time regardless.
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  • Rachel
    Frequent user September 2022 Alberta
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    Thanks so much for your kind words. I think there really is something to be said about having just your nearest and dearest with you - It sounds like your day was so special !
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  • Rayanne
    Master June 2022 Ontario
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    Your wedding day is just as important as someone's who has 500 people there. You need to do what you feel good with. An intimate wedding is a great way to spend your day with the most important people. Always about quality not quantity. You'll be able to see more of your guests. I'm sure it'll be perfect.
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  • Lisa
    Expert August 2019 Alberta
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    HI Emma,


    We had a total of 46 people and it was lovely. We wanted just the most important people to us and I think it was more fun than if we had a large wedding. We had plenty of time to enjoy the guests without being stretched too thin, and we still had dancing (but you really don't need to if that's not your thing)... At the end of the day, the wedding that suits you both should reflect who you are and who is important to you!


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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    Honestly - it's said over and over again but is so true; when it's your wedding day the only thing that you will be thinking is that you are marrying your best friend and they are the only thing on your mind.

    Come the day of nothing else will matter.

    As for what you could plan? How about putting some decks of cards on the table? Have a game for making the two of you kiss that will get guests up and on their feet!

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  • M
    Expert September 2019 Ontario
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    I love intimate weddings! We had just us, our kids, and our parents and siblings, and I still wore a wedding dress, hired a musician, and even had a limo. I had a ton of fun at my wedding, you will have fun at yours!
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