Three out of four not bad.

Time is cutting short and you being the bride can't have odd looking dresses.

The ladies needing dresses should ac soon on the fitting/alterations needed. Otherwise, they have no choice to be guests at your wedding. The truth may hurt them and break the friendship with you after.

That's so frustrating, especially with gifts and timelines for hair and makeup. My mom pointed out my sister might bail on my wedding last minute, and before that, I hadn't even thought of it as a possibility. That's a totally unfair situation to put you in, from the start, but hopefully everyone knows the easiest way to get out of it gracefully is to bow out.

I think that is extremely unfair of her to put that pressure on you. I would say exactly what you wrote.

View quoted message I tried, Troy was not happy with the ultimatum. He would prefer to wait till Saturday and if she doesn't get a dress cutting her without prior warning. Its his friend so whatever but that doesn't sound very nice.

View quoted message I agree. Would not have had a problem if she had said no right from the start or even let us know two months ago. I'm buying presents and making day of timelines (providing hair and make-up). It is very inconsiderate (my MIL has told me she is like that)

View quoted message Well I hope she gets it together soon and makes a choice.

I would do exactly what you just said. If she doesn't get her dress, come as a guest !

Well, that might get her in gear! She might get offended but if it really doesn't matter to you if she's there or not, go ahead. It's pretty disrespectful to accept the honour of being a bridesmaid and then not following through with it.

View quoted message I'm leaving it up to FH, it's his friend. She is just full of drama and always has "alot going on". I'm angry on his behalf Since I don't really know her that well I'm coming to conclusions about her personality that are not so nice.

View quoted message Could be anything, she is a flake. She is an old friend of my FH. He asked her by mistake (he didn't relize that was a bride job). I didn't want to hurt her feelings by telling her no after. Kind of wish I had, it puts a strain on our relationship and she and I will probably never be friends because of this. She is horrible with answering texts and never phones when she says she will.

View quoted message Mid tone grey full length bridesmaid gown.

View quoted message She is an old friend of FH and at this point I'd be very ok with her not getting a dress.

That is so stressful for you! Why would they leave it so late? Let us know how it works out.

I would try having a conversation with her about what's holding her back. Maybe she is looking for an easy exit and figures that by dragging her feet it will get her "fired "Or maybe she's having money issues that are preventing her from moving forward. I know it's really frustrating and makes you feel like your wedding isn't important to her but chances are that there is something bigger going on that she hasn't told you about. I would try that and then if she still doesn't change move on to changing her status to guest.

Oh no! Have you asked her about what is stopping her from getting the dress? Could it be financial issues, time constraints, is she doing ok? I'd reach out to her - as a friend first and a bride second - to see if there is something going on with her that might be stopping her from getting the dress. Maybe she plans to get it soon, but maybe she needs some support at the moment

Oh goodness! I hope she goes soon. Is it a dress that they can buy off the rack or something that needs to be ordered?

Oh wow! 2 weeks before the wedding for a bridesmaid dress seems like it is cutting things a little close to the wire! YAY for your best friend getting her dress and I will hope the other one gets her act together before Friday!