The Fight: You want to invite your ex

Hi Zoe,

Although I'm friendly enough with my last ex boyfriend (ie we're still social media friends and I'm still close with his family - we were together for 8 years), I honestly wouldn't want him there and I'm sure it would be super awkward for him to see me marrying another man.

On the other hand, FH has an ex gf that he was with for 8 months or so before me and her and I were friends during and after their relationship (we all worked together at a restaurant for 5+ years) and if our guest list was bigger I would have no problem inviting her. This is because although it's slightly weird to think they were together, I know there's absolutely nothing left between them. We're just not good enough friends for her to make the list.

I have a very unique situation.

My fiancée was married twice before. The first ex wife is the mother of his grown kids and the ex-wife sister is married with his best friend, so unfortunately the ex sister in law made to the wedding guests list. I am not thrilled, but she is married ith this best friend....

Then she (the ex sister in law) decided she would ask my fiancée if he would invite her daughter, and I was like... come on already!!!! we got into a huge argument but then I said, ok, 2 more people and that is it. I feel like I have being very accommodating. Yesterday the ex sister in law send a message to my fiancée asking us to invite her son and a plus one... So I stopped the madness there... I want to keep my wedding small, plus I think is classy-less for people to invite themselves to the wedding. In the top of it those are my ex fiancée former family and I don't want to invite them, no I ever met them prior to the wedding...

Zero interest in inviting my ex lol.

I'm not inviting any of my serious exes. Neither is he although his ex immediately before me is his sister's best friend, so I imagine she will be present. Neither of us have an issue with it. We love and trust each other and we know there's a reason we picked each other. I mostly don't want to invite any exes because I don't want to make them feel bad about how rad my FH and I are as a couple.

I don't talk to any of my ex's and so that isn't a problem for me! He also doesn't talk to any of his. His one ex gf actually was a friend of mine in high school but we grew apart in high school because we had different circles of friends. She is a really nice girl but I don't want her at my wedding and I know my fiancé would never invite his ex's

Why in the world would anyone want to invite their Ex to their Wedding. An Ex is An EX for a reason. I would never think of inviting my Ex to anything.