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VIP November 2019 British Columbia

The Cash Bar

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Alexandra, on June 20, 2018 at 02:16

So this is more of a rant than anything but I’m just getting really frustrated with everyone saying it’s rude to have a cash bar.

First of all, where I’m from it’s normal.

Second of all, the price of alcohol in this province is already high and my venue has ramped that cost up times 3!

Thirdly, don’t you think I’d have an open bar if it was something I could afford?

What is with people feeling the need to shame people for it? It’s out of my budget and my family are heavy drinkers. It’s not like I’m not providing any drinks at all, I’ll cover a couple I just can’t afford eight hours worth of drinks, and that doesn’t bother my family in the slightest. But I’m really sick of feeling bad about it because everyone else feels the need to share that opinion when I literally can’t afford to change it.

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Curious October 2018 Nova Scotia
Amelia · On June 20, 2018 at 09:09
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I feel you!

We're having a brunch wedding so theres no alcohol at the reception. But we're having a cash bar at the after party. And we're gwtting alot of "comments" from family members about it. But its just not affordable
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Expert October 2018 Saskatchewan
Clarissa · On June 20, 2018 at 09:02
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I get it. And don’t feel bad for it. If someone really gets bad about shaming you for it you can always put it in perspective for them and let them know what an open bar could cost you (and round up). When you add up the numbers it’s easy to hit 6-10k in the bar bill alone which I had no idea until planning my own wedding. Which to me seems like a stupid amount of money just for alcohol.
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Super September 2019 Ontario
Erin · On June 20, 2018 at 08:40
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My fiance and I went to a wedding in September for one of his friends and it was an open bar. All his other friends who were there - who are in our wedding party - said, "Erin, your wedding better have an open bar!!" And I said, "Only if you guys are paying for it!" To which their response was, "That's alright, we'll just drink in the parking lot then..." (I'm furious about it, but that's a whole other story...)

Anyway. Next person who tells you they want an open bar, ask them if they'd like to pitch in to pay for it and see what they say. Cash bar suddenly makes a whole lot more sense when you look at the cost difference...
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Devoted August 2018 Alberta
Rosalyn · On June 20, 2018 at 08:14
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What is with this entitlement people have when it comes to weddings! I would be fine with a cash bar!!

We are paying for drins while dinner is being served - so maybe an hour, then it will be a cash bar.
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Expert August 2018 Ontario
Jocelyn · On June 20, 2018 at 06:49
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I have no issues with a cash bar- im
having one too, but limited selection.

personally, i think it's ruder to see an outright ask for cash/monetary gifts on an invitation, AND not being given a plus one. had that happen once and i refused to attend the wedding because of it.
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VIP June 2019 Ontario
Holly · On June 20, 2018 at 02:33
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I agree! If someone has an issue with the cash bar the. They can go on the no drink list lol I've recently been considering a cash bar due to the amount of heavy drinkers.. I don't see the issues at all, weddings are expensive enough so might as well get a bit of "help" covering some of the costs. Ignore the haters and just do what you do!
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