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Shelby
Curious August 2019 Alberta

The absolutely not uninvited.

Shelby, on August 24, 2018 at 00:24 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 6
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Hey ladies...

So long story short, my father and I haven't had a relationship for years now. I haven't talked to him or seen him in 4 years...

He's a toxic person who I decided to cut out, he can't say anything nice. I really honestly despise him. So he's not invited to my wedding...

Problem is, I heard that he's telling everyone he's just going to show up. And I'm not sure what I should do. I feel like he'd ruin everything and get drunk and ruin it some more. 😕

Has anyone else had something similar, or could suggest something. The wedding will be on an acerage, and only my grandparents and aunt are invited from his side of the family.

Thanks ladies.

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Latest activity by Vinod, on August 24, 2018 at 18:51
  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
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    Venue's security assistance with list of guests names and your father to be locked out from entering.

    If he does what he says, then he's out of his mind and has no respect for you. You don't deserve this treatment from him and your day being ruined.

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  • Melissa
    Frequent user September 2018 Quebec
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    I agree with everyone else. Also, see if the venue has security - just in case. I would also designate a family member who doesn’t know him personally, let them know what he looks like, etc. I’d advise this only because if it’s someone he knows, he might sell them a sob story and convince them to let him in.
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  • Jennifer
    Super July 2019 Ontario
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    I agree with Megann. and if there is any family members that can talk sense into him. tell them to tell him hes not invited. and don't take away from your day.


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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    I'm with Megann on this - the whole letting him know through family just as you have heard that he plans on coming should push him away and if not then be prepared with family and friends that would be willing to step up and act as security against him. Most people don't want to make a scene so hopefully he doesn't mean it and is just a little butt hurt that he has pushed you away this far?

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  • A
    Devoted October 2019 Ontario
    Amanda ·
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    This is the same problem I am worried about when it comes to my mother. I have asked a few family members to keep an eye out for her. I know she wants to be there but I don't feel comfortable having her there. We also will have a security guard on had as per the venue's policy.
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  • Megann
    Frequent user September 2018 New Brunswick
    Megann ·
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    Designated family members to act as security.

    You have the right to not want him there, maybe he’s just all talk and wont do anything, but just in case, let him know through the grapevine that you’re not playing.
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