Testing out hairstyles, concerns about heat damage

You're not unreasonable. If anything, I think she is the one being unreasonable

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Thank you for the reply, and the tips. Will start searching right away for a curly stylist in the area

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Thank you for the practical suggestions, and the insight. Will be feeling a lot less awkward approaching the subject knowing that a trial run isn't necessarily standard practice for simple hairstyles

Trials are definitely not needed for a wedding party.

If it were me, I'd phone the salon ahead of time and see if you can request a stylist that specializes in curly hair. If that's not an option, just make sure to let your stylist know you are concerned with heat damage and have had issues in the past. A good stylist will be able to make sure your hair is protected and know that your concerns are valid.

I’ve honestly never heard of a bridesmaid having to do a hair trial before the wedding. But if you get your hair styled twice a couple of months apart you’re not going to have much damage. Just let the hair stylist know about your concerns and they can use proper heat protection - hopefully they’d do it anyway. And maybe do a deep conditioning treatment after each styling session to help with any damage.
But overall just weird she’s even asking you to do this unless it’s a super intricate hairstyle or something imo.

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That is true, we don't have a single hairdresser we have to use fortunately as well. Being able to alternative styles just in case pre-trials are necessary sounds like a good idea too, I'll talk with her about it and be ready with a a few. Thanks again for the support, and the advice I appreciate it.

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Makeup and hair trials are a nice to have, not a must have as long as it doesn't affect your daily life. Some people charge hundreds of dollars for a trial and I think it would be unfair to expect the bridal party to burden the cost when it's something demanded by the bride. And in your case, since it can actually cause damage, I think opting out of a trial is completely fair.

Sounds like your bride is reasonable and I'm sure if you explain to her the damage it'll do to your hair, she'll be fine with it. If she insists on a trial for pre-approval purposes, maybe suggest another hairstyle that won't require heat.

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Thanks for the quick reply. No I haven't voiced my concerns to her yet honestly because I know she'll say it's fine no matter what and I just wanted to check myself first. (Sorry that is important and I accidentally deleted it from the the original post, will edit it back).

I have just been wondering if asking to opt out of with-heat trials was an unreasonable request in itself, since I did tell someone else and they said what she was asking was completely normal and that I really should be doing trials before the wedding.

You're not unreasonable. If anything, I think she is the one being unreasonable.

When she asked you to be the MOH, was one of the conditions that she can dictate how you wear your hair and the methodology of achieving such hair? If not, then it's not what you signed up for. Causing bodily damage for someone else's dream of a wedding is not worth it under any circumstances.

I hope your bride is reasonable and she's not actually pushing for it when you've indicated the damage it can cause.