Tacky or no?

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As long as you have the correct date on the save the dates cuz you dont want people just showing up the wedding who werent invited.

Social theme wedding is different and ways to creating it can work in the right direction. A mock wedding of your favourite theme can look great.

View quoted message Fur babies count as kids too!
But I am thinking the more major stress been cancelled out I got some ideas that actually are helpful and checked out a few suggestions. Just have to make sure follows guidelines for the permit as we are letting our venue do the cash bar. Which discounts our costs.

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Lol no doubt - we don't have kids but the wedding was FOR SURE easier to plan than the Social.

View quoted message I would love to do that but after a certain age FH hide from the camera. Still tries too now. Doesn’t get a choice if it’s me because pictures are a huge thing to me.

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One alternative to a symbolic ceremony might be a slideshow of the 2 of you growing up?

View quoted message OK, then if it is typical of a social to invite people who aren't invited to the wedding, then I would follow social custom there.

View quoted message It’s given me a lot of great ideas. Just feel overwhelmed by all the suggestions and everything. I mean I would rather stress now than later. But definitely going to draw up a game plan, and maybe avoid suggestions as helpful as people are .... keep the good ones and thank the ones who aren’t so helpful. I think having kids was more easier than planning a wedding.

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Honestly it worked for us - here's the link to the page we made: Kael & Tori's Wedding Social

We listed some of our prizes, the ticket prices, who was selling actual tickets, etc.

As long as you have most people on FB it works great and all of my friends that are getting married make one for their social's.

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Don't worry about it - it's a MB thing to have a wedding social and almost everybody that attends is coming for the main reason that they aren't invited to the wedding but still want to celebrate and possibly win prizes.

A wedding social is like a Stag & Doe that they have in Ontario with games but we don't have games at socials - just raffles, 50/50, texas mickey draw, alcohol, and dancing!

Here's mine for reference: Wedding Social Complete!

View quoted message It’s that easy? I am getting suggestions left right and center that is overwhelming. And at the end of the weekend I am doing this 8 hours north of where we are planning to have it.

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For sure not needed IMO - we just made a FB event page and we were sold out over a month before the social!

View quoted message Oh no just there is a lot of people that want to come to the wedding. My FH and I are the ones paying for everything. We don’t want more so family hurt by our decisions to have those who are there for us solely at the wedding. Because there is family that we talk but not overly close too. And trying to get ideas this was one that was suggested. And the mock wedding is actually more a hand fasting as it’s part of my beliefs. And the first time I married we never did a social before hand. But like I said it’s what was suggested. I know for our big day we are going to live stream for family that can’t make it.

I'm not quite sure I understand what you mean by using save the dates for invitations to a social.
I don't like the idea of a "mock wedding" at all. Putting aside the fact that to mock has a meaning which includes derision, I don't understand the point. I guess it would make me a little uncomfortable as it also sort of (sorry to say this) smacks of privilege.

I also would not invite anyone to a pre-wedding social that wasn't getting a wedding invitation. That's generally seen as impolite.
I hope this doesn't come across as overly negative. Congratulations and good luck in your planning!

View quoted message Have save the date for the social.

Little confused... you want to have a Save the date for the social? Or you just want to add that onto the Save the dates?