Stuck between venues

You can do different decor. use that 1200 and rent fancy tables and chairs and get tons of different decor. a backyard is a backyard - at least thats my thought!

If your grandparents are anything like mine very loving and sweet but extremely stubborn. I can see how this would make it a bit more difficult for you. I know that if I told my grandparents everything would be taken care of and they didn’t need to do a thing they would still fuss over it all. Sitting down with them and talking about your ideas and plans for the wedding and who, other then them, will be doing the work to set up etc could help relieve some of their stress. Try not to stress yourself, I know easier said then done. Whichever venue you decide upon even if it isn’t either of the two you are torn between it will be perfect.

After talking to my sister in law and my mom they both said that the wedding at my nana and papas really stressed them out though. So I would definitely need to make sure it wouldn’t put them out, their health is declining so I wouldn’t want to be the straw that breaks the camels back.

View quoted message Theres a gazebo and a pond, a brick courtyard and then it’s surrounded by flower beds at the 1200$ place then my nana and papas is based in the woods with a creek that isn’t super accessible, it’s still nice though.

I'd also use your nana and papa's yard. It's not worth it (IMO) to spend $1200 for a "unique" venue - that is also a yard!

Like Tori said, you can make your wedding unique, even with the same location. Have different decor and/or style from your brother and his wife.

I would definitely go with nana's and papa's yard. Having a place to get ready and with $1200 in savings you can use that money to make your wedding unique to you. Besides what would be the difference in the two yards? Is there a gazebo? A pond? My wedding will be at the same venue as a friend of mine. The same room I was a bridesmaid in but they will be totally different vibes. Good luck on planning and welcome to the wedding wore community.

My vote is for your Nana & Papas yard. I don't know about venues in BC, but there are plenty of venues around NS (community halls, casino event spaces, etc) that cost less than $1200. If you are really willing to pay the $1200 for the other yard, maybe take a peak around for other venues that would fit the bill to help you weigh your options if it is worth the money.

Like Tori, Amanda, and Lisa already said and I agree, just because it is in the same place doesn't mean it will be the same wedding :-)

I agree with Tori! There are so many different things you can do to make it unique to you are your fiancé, for example set up the layout completely different from your brother. As well as all the other suggestions from Tori. I think that would be amazing to have those memories of having your wedding at your grandparents!

I agree with Tori - there's so many things you can do to make it unique and memorable and it sounds like it would be overall better for your needs!

Personally I would have it at your Nana and Papa's place.

Yes, it's the same venue that half of the guests have been to - but a completely different wedding! I would rather have the same venue over having the same colour scheme... less three months apart... which is what happened to us and my FH's cousin... (No way they would have known, no way we would have)

If they went rustic - go modern. If they went with yard games - go with a bouncy castle. If they went with buffet - go with BBQ! There are tons of ways to keep your weddings completely incomparable!

P.S. Congrats on the engagement and welcome to the wedding wire community!