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Jennifer
Super August 2018 Alberta

Still waiting on a lot of rsvps

Jennifer, on July 7, 2018 at 14:42 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 26
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So, it’s just over three weeks until our rsvp deadline and we’re only at 38%, still 209 people haven’t rsvp’d! Is this normal? I’m starting to get nervous. That’s a lot of people to chase down and really just don’t want to have to do that. I think we’ll make a Facebook post soon, what are your experiences and suggestions with rsvps? Should I wait until the last day to panic?

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Latest activity by Courtney, on July 11, 2018 at 12:30
  • Courtney
    Super July 2018 Ontario
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    Don't worry!

    I found a lot of people RSVP'd right away, or in the week right before the due date as they clearly were like WHOOPS BETTER DO THIS.


    Don't panic at all. Wait for the deadline to come and then shoot people texts/emails/calls. it's not as bad as you would think! Enlist the help of a family member or bridal party member.

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  • Jessie
    Expert September 2018 Ontario
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    I would gather all their email addresses and send out a reminder that you need those RSVP's even if they are a decline. You need to know your numbers and you don't need more stress on top of everything when planning a wedding. It's very stressful.

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  • Ashley
    Frequent user August 2018 British Columbia
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    I waited about 1-2 weeks after our deadline. Some people think that they didn't need to respond which is annyoying.

    The most important thing is DO NOT PANIC! You got this!

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  • Michelle
    Super September 2018 Alberta
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    It is sadly...I posted in a facebook group as a reminder as most ppl have facebook. And only a handful have actually responded... it's a sad but normal thing. Mine is end of August and I'll start going after ppl closer to the date.

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  • Leanne
    Expert September 2018 Ontario
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    I would wait until after your RSVP deadline to panic - a lot of people seem to procrastinate on this!

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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    I would definitely send out a reminder group message and hopefully that will spur people to respond.


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  • Kaye
    Frequent user September 2018 Ontario
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    There will probably be a rush in the last week
    Thats what is happening for me. My deadline is in 7 days and had a bunch of people rsvp this weekend
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  • Jessica
    Super March 2018 Ontario
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    I found this for my wedding. Most people hadn't replied until a week before (we also did a website). I did start getting family members to ask around, to make sure I got more within the last few weeks, but it was pretty common.

    I did send those a quick facebook/text message about 1 week out who hadn't replied with a generic message, "hey, just a reminder that our RSVPs to the wedding are due next Sunday. I hope you can make it!"

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Ok, good to know it’s normal!
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  • Clarissa
    Expert October 2018 Saskatchewan
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    Our deadline is a few weeks later and we're still waiting on 170 or so. Just focus on getting everything else ready in those few weeks from now to the deadline.
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    No we didn’t use the cards we just have our wedding website and phone numbers so people can call or text us if they’re not tech savvy. I’ll try to stay calm lol I think it’s just scary since it’s still over 200 people.
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  • Clarissa
    Expert October 2018 Saskatchewan
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    Are they online or cards being mailed back?
    You sill have 3 weeks before your deadline so don’t stress over it. You set the deadline and so you have to give people till then. And if they’re mailed in give it an extra week as they may be in transit.

    If after the final date you still can’t get an answer out of them hopefully it’s just a few people and you either account for a few extra people for food or you let them know you’ll miss them on the day.

    You our can start mentioning it to people when you see them and if they say yes or no then you can say something like “thanks for letting us know. If you want I can just make note of that for you as your rsvp”. If they still are a maybe then “We do have to know by x date so we can inform the catering on the final numbers so just let us by x date”.
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Lol yeah! I’ll definitely send out a reminder hopefully it will help! I really don’t want to chase that many people down individually.
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Yeah I’m a little controlling as well lol getting a little nervous and annoyed that it’s this many people still. You really realize the importance of rsvps when you get married yourself!
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    We’ve seen Facebook posts where the couple makes a reminder and shares their wedding website so I though of doing that. I do not have very many guest’s email so those who don’t have Facebook we’ll have to reach out to but I knew some would wait last minute that’s why I wondered maybe if I should start worrying about it when our deadline is actually here (August 1st).
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  • M
    Expert July 2018 Alberta
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    Gosh, no it’s not early. I would ghost them if I were you, with my sassy/scary “what the eff are you thinking” attitude ^^ BUT perhaps if you say that you have to finalize the list, everyone will give you a definite answer without having to give there ^^
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    I should ask our parents to help that’s a good idea thanks! They talk to some family members more than us and there’s so many people it would make things easier
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Oh my gosh really!? Jeez that’s frustrating
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Yeah I’m definitely getting stressed I did not expect this to still be waiting on this many people! We sent our invites out early and now I’m wondering if that’s why?
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Our wedding is August 18th and our rsvp date is August 1st. I tried to put it as close as possible to the wedding date to not be rude but now I’m regretting it lol
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  • M
    Expert July 2018 Alberta
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    Unless your deadline is a tad bit too early, that’s weird! When I sent out the invitations, there were 3 people that did not rsvp and I had to email them.
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  • Tyanna
    Super June 2019 British Columbia
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    Definitely start reaching out to people! That's a lot of people to have as maybes 😮 I'd be pretty stressed about that, as venues, vendors, and rental companies all need to know in due time or you'll end up having to pay for people who dont come!
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  • M
    Devoted August 2018 Ontario
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    It's normal and annoying Smiley xd just set up a time to contact people forget or don't receive the invite. I had about 30% rsvp and had to contact the rest
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  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
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    I would be getting everyone on board (family and friends) to RSVP asap. Ask your parents to get involved and ask some guests to be reminded.

    Alternative is sending an email to everyone one shot. Don't wait for long as you do need the final count.
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  • Stephanie
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
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    I was going to say its too bad there not a way to send out a reminder to everyone when the deadline is... I'd send a quick generic email to a bunch if you want! Would help ease my stress that's for sure!! Some people do sadly wait till the last minute and there really nothing we can do about that sadly...
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  • Brittany
    British Columbia
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    Hmmm I would be nervous as well... but I'm also quite paranoid and controlling... my guest list is also only 100 people so I cant imagine waiting on 300+ RSVPs....
    Perhaps reach out to the key people... and then send something out to others the week prior to the deadline.
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