I’m torn! I don’t know if I should do a stag and doe or a wedding shower ! I could do a wedding shower and the fiancé can have a stag? I want to go with whatever would be best and of course most beneficial 🤷🏻♀️
We had both! Bridal Shower - Stag & Doe (Jack n Jill) - and separate bachelor & Bachelorette parties! But not everyone was invited to the shower - it was just a close family & friends. The Jack and Jill was open to anyone - family, friends, coworkers, friends of friends etc. the Bachelor & bachelorette parties were pretty well bridal party only. But you can do any of these parties however you want!
Doing both may be a lot for your guests, but if you have a larger social circle that would be willing to attend everything, I'd say go for it. We had a smaller wedding, so it would have been too much to ask from our friends and family. I also didn't want to plan one more event around the wedding! We had a shower, but we created a honeyfund registry for our honeymoon and ended up getting cash gifts, so that's an alternative option as well!
My fiancé and I are doing the stag and doe because he knows SO many people, so it’s a great way to get support from your friends and community. I’ve just told him that he and his men can plan it, because I’m more focused on wedding planning (which he doesn’t have too many opinions on) so it works for us.
The bridal shower, you basically just give your list of who you would like there, but it should be thrown by either family, or by your bridesmaids. For me, my mom and mother-in-law will be hosting it
Stag and does are more of a fundraiser and are only beneficial when you know a lot of people! We are doing a joint shower and having a bachelorette/bachelor each. This way we get the "gift benefits" of the shower, plus we get to have that celebration together and we also get our own celebrations seperate.
Either one someone else should be putting on for you. Stag and does are meant as a fundraiser for the wedding (popular in some areas but not others). Typically there are games, food, drinks, dancing, door prizes. Anyone can come if they buy a ticket.
A shower is typically for those closest to the bride (although couple showers are becoming more common!) It is a time when people bring gifts for the couple. Although there are other options for showers now for cash instead or something.
From my knowledge typically a stag and doe is for raising money to put towards your wedding; and a wedding shower (i'm assuming same as bridal shower but both men and woman are invited?) is something your friends or family throw for you, as a way for you both to start your new life together with nice gifts for your home.
Not sure if this helped but I hope it makes it easier for you to decide 😊