Stag & Doe or Wedding Shower???

SO i am wondering if you did that or not? I need advise on that too as well. Nobody seemed to of answered it?

So did you do it? and how did you go about that? donations etc?

We are doing a stag and doe because its just something you just do where i am from. But my bridesmaids are also throwing me a bridal shower on top of a bachelor /bachelorette, were doing it all

Our friends locallly put a buck & buck for us and no wedding shower as the event was to help our wedding. We appreciarted allthe work and efforts and still love them as family.

We're having a wedding social similar to a stag and doe. Also a wedding shower and the parties as well.

We had both! Bridal Shower - Stag & Doe (Jack n Jill) - and separate bachelor & Bachelorette parties!
But not everyone was invited to the shower - it was just a close family & friends.
The Jack and Jill was open to anyone - family, friends, coworkers, friends of friends etc.
the Bachelor & bachelorette parties were pretty well bridal party only.
But you can do any of these parties however you want!

I had a wedding shower hosted by my SIL (who was also my MOH) and my MIL.

I didn't want to do a stag and doe, I didn't want to ask for so many gifts from everybody, especially because we had done an engagement party.

We did also have a bachelor/bachelorette

Doing both may be a lot for your guests, but if you have a larger social circle that would be willing to attend everything, I'd say go for it. We had a smaller wedding, so it would have been too much to ask from our friends and family. I also didn't want to plan one more event around the wedding! We had a shower, but we created a honeyfund registry for our honeymoon and ended up getting cash gifts, so that's an alternative option as well!

You could totally do both

My fiancé and I are doing the stag and doe because he knows SO many people, so it’s a great way to get support from your friends and community. I’ve just told him that he and his men can plan it, because I’m more focused on wedding planning (which he doesn’t have too many opinions on) so it works for us.

The bridal shower, you basically just give your list of who you would like there, but it should be thrown by either family, or by your bridesmaids. For me, my mom and mother-in-law will be hosting it

Stag and does are more of a fundraiser and are only beneficial when you know a lot of people! We are doing a joint shower and having a bachelorette/bachelor each. This way we get the "gift benefits" of the shower, plus we get to have that celebration together and we also get our own celebrations seperate.

Either one someone else should be putting on for you. Stag and does are meant as a fundraiser for the wedding (popular in some areas but not others). Typically there are games, food, drinks, dancing, door prizes. Anyone can come if they buy a ticket.

A shower is typically for those closest to the bride (although couple showers are becoming more common!) It is a time when people bring gifts for the couple. Although there are other options for showers now for cash instead or something.

From my knowledge typically a stag and doe is for raising money to put towards your wedding; and a wedding shower (i'm assuming same as bridal shower but both men and woman are invited?) is something your friends or family throw for you, as a way for you both to start your new life together with nice gifts for your home.

Not sure if this helped but I hope it makes it easier for you to decide 😊