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Raphaela
Frequent user June 2018 Alberta

Speeches..

Raphaela, on February 7, 2018 at 02:14 Posted in Wedding reception 0 17
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Hello!
I hope everyone is doing great! I am just wondering who gives speeches at the wedding?? I know the obvious maid of honour and best man but who else... should we be asking people if they are going to prepare a speech like parents or if they even want to give a speech? Please help!!!

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Latest activity by Melissa, on February 26, 2018 at 13:43
  • Melissa
    Frequent user November 2019 Ontario
    Melissa ·
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    I'm worried about this as well, as far as I know (from all the weddings I've attended) the best man, maid of honour and parents of the bride and groom usually give speeches but end of the day it's up to you! I know my parents will not want to give a speech but I'm sure my FH parents will, it'll be nontraditional but I will not ask my mother to give a speech knowing she would be uncomfortable doing so in front of all the guests, she's too emotional and wouldn't get through it! haha

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  • Katherine
    Curious August 2018 Ontario
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    I am also wondering about this as well. I am not having a formal wedding reception, there will be no formal dinner, only a MOH and best man, no huge wedding party. I am wondering if I need to have speeches or can we forgo this tradition? Help??

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    Parents, siblings, close friends. It al depends on what your expectations are for your wedding.


    Personally I don't want a lot of speeches just because I don't.

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  • Raphaela
    Frequent user June 2018 Alberta
    Raphaela ·
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    I talked it over with FH and he wants an open mic for speeches. We have decided to do main speeches, MOH, BM, his parents and my parents first then if other people want to speak they can.
    Thanks everyone for your help and ideas!
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  • Candace
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
    Candace ·
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    We are having the best man, MOH and each set of parents. We have offered our families if they want to make a speech to let us know and we will either have them speak at the reception or probably the rehearsal dinner. We put on our website for anyone that wants to make a speech to let us know and we will figure out the timing but there will for sure be the 4 speeches and then our speech at the end.
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  • Courtney
    Super July 2018 Ontario
    Courtney ·
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    There is definitely no rule on this!

    Myself and my FH will be doing a thank you speech together, and I did tell my dad he MUST do a speech (I just always pictured him doing one.. he's a big speaker lol).

    I told our MOH and BestMan that they don't need to do a speech unless they want to. I would like my girls do a speech toghether if they want, or his boys to do a speech together but that's it.

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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
    Holly ·
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    We are having our best man and maid of honour, our siblings if they are willing, parents and probably his aunt. We will also say a small speech each or together. We don't want it to take up a huge amount of time so we will ask them to keep them around 5-7 minutes. This way our guests are sitting or too long and can really enjoy the night! We decided against having the speeches open due to it may take up a lot of time.
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  • Raphaela
    Frequent user June 2018 Alberta
    Raphaela ·
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    Thank you all! We have an hour before dinner so I hope people will want to do some speeches.
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  • Jessica
    Super March 2018 Ontario
    Jessica ·
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    As most others have mentioned I'm having the MOH and BM, along with my parents and the groom's parents. From the few weddings I've been to, the MC goes around asking if anyone else from the party wants to say a speech, and the siblings have normally said something, so we just added them in this time. I've asked all of them to keep them short and sweet since there are so many! (I hate the speeches part, so just a few words is perfect!)

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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    It is up to you! Typically, it's the best man, maid of honour, parents of bride and groom. I have seen siblings, other relatives, other wedding party do it as well. I think the key is length. People don't want to sit through hours of speeches. If you want 6 people to do speeches, I would suggest breaking it up a bit.

    I've also seen open mic at weddings, where anyone can go up and share a story about either bride, groom, or the couple. This works well when it's used as the kissing game--although there is typically at least one super embarrassing/inappropriate story during this time!

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    Short and sweet is key! I went to a wedding where the speeches were very sweet but literally went over 10 minutes a piece and the crowd was losing steam lol
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  • Joey
    WeddingWire Admin May 2015 Maryland
    Joey ·
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    Don't worry, Raphaela, here's a guide as to who gives speeches that may help!

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  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
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    I had both BM and MOHs give speeches and myself. Kept itsimple yet short. You can ask whomever wants to give a speech and if decided, 2 minutes over 10 minutes where it starts to get.
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  • Maya
    Expert January 2019 Alberta
    Maya ·
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    I don’t think there are any rules on who can give speeches. Typically at least the maid of honour and best man. At my cousins wedding last August they did the speeches after/ during the dinner. After the main speeches were done they opened the mic to anyone who wanted to say a few words. It turned out okay because only a handful of people gave a speech. If you have lots of guests that want to say something the that could turn out to be very long.
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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
    Erin ·
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    There are no hard and fast rules but generally at least the best man, maid of honour and the parents of the bride and groom. We had all our wedding party (5 people) and our parents speak at our wedding.

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  • Jamie
    Frequent user September 2018 Alberta
    Jamie ·
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    I think speeches are completely up to you and your friends and family - I know alot of my bridal party are not huge speakers, so we aren't making it mandatory for anyone to do a speech. If somebody wants to speak great, if not, that's all good too! I am sure a few people would love to speak for you though! Some other speeches I've seen include welcoming the bride or groom to the family - usually a parent or sibling of the other person ☺️
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  • Christina
    Frequent user August 2023 Ontario
    Christina ·
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    Hello there isn't any rules about speech's I don't think. Anyone can give a speech I have seen siblings, friends, parents it depends on who wants to maybe asking everyone and see. Smiley smile wish you luck
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