Sorry not sorry! 🤷

Our wedding is at a bar and I do not regret that decision for a second.

- We aren't having a church wedding.

- I am wearing a white dress even though it's not my first wedding.

- We ARE having children at the wedding and reception.

- We're including a handfasting during the ceremony.

No church and small wedding party.

1. Not having children at the wedding. Aside from the ones in the immediate family

2. Not inviting 300+ people like a typical Italian wedding. Only people we like/talk to and who don’t cause drama

3. Not getting married in a church

We have decided on a few non negotiables;
-A brunch wedding
-No dancing
-No toasts I know they all love me and often tell me privately and have for years
-Guest list will not exceed 40 people
-No bridal party just our witnesses up front to make the ceremony smoother (to be discussed with officiant still)

I’m excited and really looking forward to the planning being complete!

I absolutely LOVE this post! This is my second marriage and I realize now just how many concessions I made the first round that this time, it really is all about Jules and I and what WE want. Come and enjoy our day or day home. That's YOUR choice!

Bravo ladies. I understand all too well that decisions that are not favored by parents are difficult...but if your friends and family love and support you, these things won't matter. Enjoy your weddings days and all the days that follow!

A friend losing my friendship of etiquette manners bringing his mother and bf disrespecting me that way. Also not givimg any money as a gift.

1. Not inviting cousins' kids, that eliminates 25 kids so instead of 30, we only have 5. 2 of them are our flower girl and ring bearer. The other 3 are older (over 12).

2. Having an unplugged ceremony #sorrymom

3. Not having a traditional registry - we have more than enough stuff!

So many things - we picked things for our wedding based on what we would enjoy!

1) Taco buffet for dinner, hot dog buffet for midnight snack.

2) Not doing favours and instead doing a HUGE candy buffet (we're up to about 200 lbs planned!)

3) Not having a ring bearer.

4) Settling on a big wedding (275 guests) after initially only wanting a small group of 50-75. We didn't realize how many friends we actually have that we really want there!

5) Incorporating Star Wars in so many areas of our wedding - while not the main theme, it's sprinkled throughout.

Not having a wedding party
Not inviting any friends - we want a small intimate ceremony with family
Not having a real reception just dinner and drinks
Not having a wedding cake
Wearing sneakers with my wedding dress
FH won't be wearing a suit
No registry

It's my wedding, I'll do as I please lol

-That we're not inviting children to the wedding

-That we're having an unplugged ceremony

-That our wedding is in the Winter so it likely will be snowy and cold

-That we're not having either of our siblings in the wedding party or giving them any special jobs

- That we're not having a registry

-That my step-mom will not be in all of the family wedding pictures (I want some with just my mom and dad), she won't be getting a corsage,she's not going to have a speech/toast, she's not going to have an announced entrance or walk down the aisle, she won't be part of the morning getting ready (all the same applies to my step-dad, but he honestly does not care and likely wouldn't want any of the things listed above)

The guest list - thanks to the advice from the lovely ladies and gents on this forum, I have decided to invite only those family members I actually like.

The music - most of my fiance's family and friends will expect traditional Arabic music to be played all night, but the only part of my wedding I've ever planned since being a kid was the playlist! So it will be a mix (compromise, compromise)

• Not having a flower girl. It costs extra to clean up rose petals at our ceremony location and it avoids me having to pick between four nieces.
• Not inviting family my fiancé and I have not spoken to (or met) since our relationship began.
• Not having a bridal party. Our guest list is small enough that only our closest family and friends will be attending so it serves no purpose.
• Not having a videographer. My fiancé and I would rather invest the money in photography (and elsewhere).

A few things come to mind:
- Not having a bilingual invitation/website (English/French). They'll both be in English only.
- Not inviting kids, with the exception of the ring bearer and flower girl.
- Not having an open bar.

I've already received a bit of backlash on all three points, with some family members threatening not to come at all (good, one less plate to pay for!).

View quoted message Minus the part about formal dress & going straight to our honeymoon, same.

We wont be having an open bar, it’s not something that’s ever expected where I’m from because my family drinks more.

Also same with the snow. I know your getting married on a mountain, and I am getting married on the neighbouring mountain so I’m a little concerned about driving in snow as well but like you said, it’s Vancouver, it’ll just rain

1. Guest invites: Sorry cousin so-and-so. You’re not invited. No shade. No love lost. But we really want an intimate celebration. 🤷🏾‍♀️

2. Easter weekend: The date and weekend hold sentimental value. We understand if you won’t be able to make it but that’s the date we’ve chosen. 🤷🏾‍♀️

3. Location (Victoria, BC...most guests are based in Toronto or the USA): Again - sentimental value and we wouldn’t change it for the world. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Our cake topper is two skeletons getting married so definitely a non traditional cake. We bought it in New Orleans at a voodoo shop after he proposed. So it's sentimental!

The food we picked for our buffet and for our cocktail hour are based on what we like. If people are going to be picky then tough. There are enough choices.

I'm gonna sayyy.... Either having a formal dress code (not necessarily a formal family/friends crowd) or not having an open bar or cocktail hour. We just didn't have the budget, and honestly, I'm bootin' everyone out the door by midnight to leave for our honeymoon, so "thanks but go home now"... haha.

Maybe also having a winter wedding and risking people travelling/driving in snow... however it is Vancouver so let's be real... it'll be rain.

I feel like maybe the buffet??? I find people are 50/50 on a buffet/seated but my FH and I have always been team buffet!!!