Hi everyone,
My future hubby and I both have big families. In my culture, it is very typical to have large weddings (300+ guests), but we wanted to keep things more intimate and not go overboard with our budget.
We set our guestlist to approx. 140 people and only invited family and a select number of friends and co-workers. In order to keep the guestlist manageable, we decided to draw the line and only include the children of immediate family and not those of friends/co-workers.
I've read a few forums/articles on the topic for guidance. If a particular couple's chlidren were not included in the wedding, we've been careful to address the invitation envelopes with only the names of the adults. Also, the online RSVP only lists the adults and they cannot add their kids.
I'm hoping that these measures will make the message clear for those concerned, but I anticipate that I may get questions or (gasp!) heat from the guests whose kids were exclude :/
Has anyone else had issues with telling that kids are not invited (ex. for an adult-only reception)? Other than explaining to them that only family can bring their kids, is there something else hubby and I can do to make things clear?
Or has anyone made exceptions to their own rule just to avoid drama?
Thanks in advance for your input!