Small Wedding Parties

We are also just having a MOH & BM. Since this is our second marriage, we are opting out of the pre production (engagement party/bachlorette/bachelor parties)

My husband and I just got married on August 7th and we only had best man and moh standing up for us!

I agree with Hank on this one!

Personally I wouldn't put any pressure on my MOH or the BM to throw these different type of events/parties. I would speak to them and see what their thoughts are with respect to what you are exactly looking for in them to do with respect to your wedding, and see if this is something they can manage and commit to.

Although, I am all for small wedding parties 100%- less stress, better chance at avoiding drama, and less people to have to worry about.

Hope this helps!

Have you communicated these requests to your MOH and BM before asking them to commit to the role? Remember, a bridal party =/= event planners for every little thing, nor should they be treated as a way to save on staffing during the wedding.

As for your parties, typically the couple plans and hosts their own engagement party, not the wedding party. The MOH and BM can handle a bachelorette/bachelor party as long as you don't intrude - you can make a list of things you don't want ie sexy times but it's bad form to demand that you go to certain locations or to visit certain events that would cost the guests.

A family member typically hosts the bridal shower.

I started with just 1 MOH and 1 Bridesmaid and now we have a third member, but my MOH is taking over the planning, but we told her that she doesn't need to pay out of her own pocket that we can help and it doesn't have to be extravagant parties either. I'm too old to stay up and party all night and for the shower I am happy with a BBQ back yard party.

We only had one person on each side so we didn't do any of the other parties because it would be too much to put on one or two people. Though the Best Man did throw a bachelor party for my husband.