This is my second wedding. First one was terrible. This will be my FHs first. He is a simple man. Maybe to much so lol. Any way we both agree we want a small wedding. His side has maybe 30 people and that's inviting aunt's and cousins etc. I have no idea at this point who he wants to invite as we haven't talked about it yet. He did however day no one is safe in regards to not being invited. He isn't super close to any family. His dad is an ass... His mom is reclusive.. His sister moved across country. He doesn't even have close friends. He's very private. He does have a son from a previous relationship that's 4.5yrs and lives in the states. We are in Canada. He would like him there but I know there may be issues getting him there thanks to the ex.
Now onto me. I have 2 kids, f11 and m8. They live with me and I definitely want them there at the wedding no matter what. My best friend is the closest thing to family I've got. I'm estranged from my actual family and barely even talk to my brother who I doubt will even come. My list of people are some friends and my list is about 15ppl. There are a few people I don't mind if they didn't come.
Here's my issue. I want the dress, I want the first dance, the cake.. The normal stuff but I wonder if this wedding is super small... Are those things even an option. Would seem silly I thought.
Second problem...I have no idea how small weddings even work. My daughter will be a bridesmaid.. My best friend my MOH... My son will walk me down the aisle.... But in his side.. He's got no one to date that he would use as those guy counterparts.
Really need some advice
Thank you all in advance