Hello everyone!
Warning: this is a lengthy post! Thank you in advance to those who take the time to read and offer advice!
Alrighty, so the fiance and I have always loved the idea of a small, intimate ceremony. We decided to have our parents, siblings, and grandparents present for a short and sweet vow exchange on a Friday evening. To be followed by a larger scale, laid back, I DO BBQ style party on the Saturday. A band will be present, and backyard games as well.
We also chose not to have a wedding party, since we are deciding to have such a small/non traditional ceremony to begin with. Of course, some of our friends are a tad sad with this. Especially since it is also just our close relatives at the vow exchange.
When my aunt heard about me not having a bridal party... she automatically questioned who was going to throw me a bridal shower! She then insisted on throwing one for me. I am beyond thankful for this, but still can't seem to shake the selfish feeling lol! We already live together, and we are not having a large traditional wedding. With these 2 factors in mind....I feel as though the shower seems a bit needy on my end? There will be people attending the shower, who will not be seeing our vow exchange. However, they will be on the reception/bbq list most definitely! The venue is already booked, decor is purchased, etc... So it's happening! I just can't shake this selfish feeling!
Again.... with these two things on our minds... 1. some friends being upset because they are not attending the actually vow exchange, and 2. my feelings of guilt over the shower.... We are thinking of changing our initial plans of the small ceremony.
We are so torn. Should we stick to our guns about the small ceremony? Or choose to have the actual vow exchange on the same day, allowing more people to attend? Any advice is appreciated!
*SIGH* Thank you to those who took the time to read haha! When planning this laid back style wedding, we thought it'd be much less money, and stress. Appears it is more! :p