Single person invite.

We are using theknot.com for all our wedding guest stuff so our RSVP cards have the names of hose being invited and in order to RSVP on the site they have to enter the name on the card so they can't respond for anyone other than who we are inviting.

Anyone who get's a plus 1 we have asked ahead of time for their name so we can put it on their RSVP card.

We did the same in thr manner of putting how many guests from each household number. Names were personalized on the envelopes.

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Thank you all for your comments and stories. This was very helpful, and dispelled many of my worries. As for Mosser's question, we gave our guests many ways to RSVP. Many are older or come from different countries and they would not have understood the website. Most of the people that only got a 1 seat invite where very understanding, but I have had at least one ask to bring someone (a 2-3 cousin or something).

We are doing the same. We are also stopping at first cousins. I am part First Nations and I have two large family’s for my dads side and then also my brothers dads side. My moms side isnt as big, but it’s still a lot of people.

Also from my cousins wedding I know when I send my Aunty and uncle’s an invitation I will write their spouse instead of plus one. I have one cousin who wasn’t invited to that wedding and my uncle brought her and I don’t want that to happen at our wedding. This one cousin drinks too much and I don’t want anything to happen at my wedding.

I was also not sure about my work invitations because some people at work I don’t get along with. I at first felt like I had to invite them all, but as I was talking about it with one of my bridesmaids she reminded me that it was my wedding and that I could invite whoever I wanted.

Yes! Same here. I feel like I have to do this with colleagues. It sucks but I don't know their spouses and I have and like a lot of my colleagues

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We're doing the same thing basically. Our rule of thumb was a serious relationship which we considered as a substantial amount of time together or that we had met them. we did decide to give the single people in our wedding party a plus one if they would like.. I'm sort of hoping they won't use it though lol.

I'm nervous that people will assume others are invited but we are writing specific names on invitations.

We will not be doing a "plus guest" option. If they are in a serious relationship, that's fine, but if they are single, they will not be getting a plus one. We only have a few family/friends that are single anyway, so it shouldn't be a big deal. Plus, the ones that are single know many other people there.

View quoted message I got a bit of pushback from my parents, when I mentioned that we’re stopping at first cousins (excluding their kids). It might be a handful of people on my side but it’s a larger group on my FH’s side, which would bump our guest list well over our venue’s limit.

This is a major issue I'm expecting to deal with. We have a guest list that appears to continuously grow, but we've already decided no distant relatives or children. I've been told to address the invitation clearly with the peoples precise names (versus "Smith Family", or whatever). And also, some how on the RSVP card making it so each person invited RSVPs.

Are you using the Wedding Wire personal websites? I'm putting my guest list/RSVP online, and asking people to respond there. We will send out a handful of RSVP cards for older guests who won't be able to figure it out, but for 80% of our guests, they will RSVP on our wedding website. Then they can only click "attending" or "not attending" for their individual names. For families that look up their last name, they will also be able to see if their children are on the list or not. This is also where we are putting directions, details and registry information to save on space on the invitation/details cards.

Honestly, I think people who invite guests without consulting the couple are very rude, and it makes me question inviting them, as people close to me would just ask or have more respect about it.

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I'm glad not to be the only couple doing this. We have gotten some criticism for this, but we don't want to spend a fortune on a wedding and put dept onto ourselves to have people we could care lease about and are only coming for the free meal attend the wedding.

We are in a similar situation, where not everybody will be getting a plus one and not all kids will be invited either.

To make sure the message gets delivered properly, we'll be wording our invitations similarly:

"__ of 2 people attending"

We're also addressing the envelopes to the intended guests only.