Should i postpone my wedding date...?

Its up to you. i mean people have been using zoom to have people watch. theyre working on a vaccine and it already went to human trials as well. numbers in ontario are getting better also. they canceled big events which brings in 1000s of people from all over if your family and friends have been taking care and not going out i think they should be ok

That is such a hard decision! Mine is at the end of September and my fiance and I are worrying about the same thing. My fingers are crossed for you two. Is your venue helping you ready a plan-b situation? We chose our "second date" just in case, and our final number is 85 but have decided that we will make the call to post pone or not come July. This is such a crazy situation. Wishing you all the best XO

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Same here! I am hoping that we will be clear by October!

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I agree! Crossing my fingers.

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I am in the same boat as you. It looks like it may clear up for us, and that we will be back into more of a "normal" life style by October, but they have cancelled LARGE gatherings for the rest of this year, like CNE, Concerts, Parades ect. Just seems that it's events that would have thousands of people gathering, which I think is smart.

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Definitely trying to keep my date!! I really really really really don't want to postpone lol

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Are you! I am hoping you are keeping your date too!?
Trying to stay positive, if things keep going the way they are then hopefully we will be good!

It's such a hard decision to make, but it has to be what makes you and your fiance happy and everyone else can follow your wishes. I know how you are feeling as our wedding is scheduled for August 14th on our 14th anniversary, and since it's an important date for us we are leaning towards an elopement ceremony and stream it with intimate reception at home and then maybe have large party on 1st anniversary. Of other consideration even with an intimate gathering what will the protocols be for social distancing and even in a year from now will we still have to take the same measures....it may not be allowed for large gatherings until a vaccine is finished.

Good luck with what you decide and be true to the 2 of you...it's your day!

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We are planning October too with 400 guests now ( decreased it from 500 lol ).

It’s ultimately what works best for you and your future husband. I would recommend postponing. Even with the downward trend, even if gatherings of 50 people will be allowed in the summer months, everything will have physical distancing protocols in place. So it depends what you guys are comfortable with it’s really unfortunate but I don’t think gatherings of over 100 will be allowed in July

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All the best for you as well! It seems to be improving day by day.. the downward trend is good news! Fingers crossed

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We are so alike in our thinking!! Hoping for the best for you guys Kelsie!

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We are also in Ontario and my friend is getting married the same week as you, I think she's leaning towards the same as you! I am planning for October, no idea what the rules will be like then, but planning to go ahead anyways.

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We are Oct 2020 too!! Good luck!

I think that you would need to have some backup plans prepared. Ie; if you still want to get married on that day then a condensed guest list, or an elopement plan with your reception pushed to 2021.

July is highly unlikely for a group of that size, especially with the phase roll out that is expected. If you are able to have a wedding with 110 guests, guests may feel uncomfortable attending and/or there may be some strict restrictions. Some that I am reading about from other provinces are; masks mandatory, seating arrangements must be per household (may not be possible based on your venue), and no dancing other than bride/groom & parents.

We have postponed because all of those reasons are not the wedding we envisioned, and definitely not worth spending the money on to have a day that is not what we wanted or have planned for 2 years.

Hope this helps. Wish you luck with your planning & hopefully your wedding can happen soon.

I had my date on July 18th 2020 and I postponed to October 2020 in hopes that gives us that little "extra" time, but I would say hold onto it until last minute if you can.

Unfortunately we just decided to postpone... our date was Aug. 8. 2020... we've moved it to Oct.9.2021......It sucks but at the same time I feel like I can breath again. The last 6 months are supposed to be exciting, but it's just been so stressful... i've been constantly looking at the nrs, and we were going to wait till June to make a decision but we figured we may as well postpone for the safety and enjoyment of all our guests. I want our guests to feel excited to come to the wedding... not worried... with everything thats happened, I feel that it was best for me to postpone and hope that by Oct of next year we will be in a much better place.

Sadly, I do not think weddings of 110 people will be able to happen in July. However, have you considered going virtual? It's something I'm strongly leaning towards - bridal party and immediate family in-person with everyone else streaming in virtually, with possibly having a big reception next year. This could allow you to focus on getting only the "essentials" ready for this year and still get married.

I would recommend postponing. Its not even about all the things you need to get done. Yes you need them done and you can get them done in time if you really push. But. You have to think about what the government is going to do. I really don't see how gatherings of over 50 will be allowed until the end of summer. Counting the vendors in with your guest list just raises your numbers as well.


I'm in Alberta and all gatherings higher then 15 have been restricted until Aug 31 and they haven't even said thats a temporary date. They are going to re evaluate come Sept.
If you're able to or want to cut down your list I would say go ahead. If you want everyone there I would suggest postponing. And the sooner the better because then you can get a good date next year with all your vendors. I have seen a lot of brides struggling to get dates with vendors next year because they waited too long and everything has been taken by weddings who were scheduled early 2020.
I for sure understand your hesitation when it comes to postponing. I had a wedding with a guest list of 30 people and I pushed it as long as i could because I was hopeful. When I talked to my guests I knew some were nervous about coming and were really pushing us to postpone. When we finally decided to postpone we did it an entire year just so we didn't have to go through this again. Procrastinating as long as we did made us miss out on our preferred date for 2021.
Its obviously whatever you want to do. But I don't see things loosening up anytime soon.

I’m sorry you’re in this position. It’s really hard to make these decisions especially with all of the uncertainty.

Unfortunately I don’t think you’ll be able to have that many people gather by July. If you are okay with scaling the guest list back significantly then you might be able to go ahead. I’m not sure what the restrictions are where you’re located, but I know in Alberta all gatherings over I think 15 people have been banned until the end of August. In BC we’re currently restricted to gatherings of 50 people BUT that includes physical distancing and isn’t encouraged unless it’s necessary.

If scaling the guest list back won’t work for you I think you seriously need to think about postponing.

Have you talked with your vendors about whether they’re willing to work at your wedding and whether they have concerns about the number of people attending?

Have you also considered whether any of your guests will need to travel from out of province or out of country? Out of country most likely will not be possible. Out of province may also require those people to self isolate for 14 days before and after your wedding.

Just a few things to think about. I hope you can find a solution that works for you and still makes you happy!

Sorry I meant to add my point is you gotta do what you feel is right for you guys and what makes sense. Good luck

Ours is Aug and we just decided to postpone to next July. We want things to be as normal as possible. We want our guests to feel comfortable sitting next to each other and partying together (90-100ppl). We are likely doing a tiny ceremony 8 ppl this October though If it’s allowed. It’ll be our 10 yr anniversary and we already have two kids so I’m so ready to feel like a complete family.

Think about what's really important for your day, if you're ok with having an intimate wedding & postponing your reception with a possible vow renewal (or just the party) in a year, do that. If you want the whole big wedding & not have it done separately, then wait. Your wedding will be however you want it, especially this year, many are doing things that are not typical & no one who really matters to you will judge you either way.
Personally I went from 120people July 18, to 15 on our date, we will be live streaming it, as well as having a meal with cupcakes, dancing, all done in my MIL backyard. We will have a reception with vow renewal in 2 years that will include everything & everyone. Good luck!

Our date is also July 25 and we're going ahead with it, however it looks. Everyone is different. We were planning a smaller wedding to begin with, just doing something simple at our church. We also have my dress, the rings, and suit is on it's way so we feel like as long as we can dress up, say our vows, have some cake and take photos, all with (hopefully) our immediate family nearby, we will make the best of it. We're waiting to live together until we're married, so we don't want to postpone another year. Our wedding ceremony will be lovely and intimate and special however it turns out, and we'll plan for a reception later on once things are in the clear.

We were August 21 2020 and we just rescheduled to the same date next year, even though our wedding was already only around 20 people. We would have felt too bad if it resulted in our grandparents getting sick, we just didn't want to risk it and have our family feel uncomfortable.

July 4th - and we have just postponed to July 2021. It was our venue that strongly suggested this as well.
I had thought about doing a small thing but I couldn’t imagine not being able to dance with family and friends or hugs etc. I feel less stress now as we too didn’t have everything done and no way to do it. It’s sad but now we have more time to ensure everything is perfect! What’s one more year lol

We just made the decision today to postpone our October 17, 2020 to October 9, 2021. It wasn't an easy decision to make and I may have shed a few tears leading up to today. We just wanted to make sure our guests would feel comfortable and more importantly safe. I also didn't want to have to foot tap all our guests, I'm more of hug type person 🤗 Best of luck with everything.

We were July 10th, 2020, and just postponed to July 16, 2021. Been together for over 10 years and planning this for 18 months. Our guests were all local and we only invited 72 people. Not to be a downer, but working in healthcare, I just don't see it happening. Even with the shutdown, community spread is still occurring more than we would have liked. Even if things reopen, this is going to be such a gradual process, and the lack of certainty around timelines makes planning (especially late stages) incredibly difficult.


I've realized that whether I accept it or not, the wedding I had planned doesn't exist in this climate. Even if we can go ahead, it is going to look so different from what we had in mind. I want to celebrate with my friends and family - not downsize our guest list and stand 6ft apart. There are never any guarantees ahead of us, but by next year, we will have learned more, and will have lived with this virus for longer. We will have adapted as a society, rather than be in the early stages of figuring things out. I was absolutely devestated to have to postpone and many tears were (and will be shed), but I didn't want to live in the uncertainty and stress any longer, and I wanted to rebook while there were still options available to us.
I think the time will pass faster than we think (it's already May)! While I'm still SO hurt by postponing, I try to remind myself that we can still plan other things to look forward to once things do open up. For now, we haven't cancelled our wedding airbnb, and if we are allowed to go, we may just have a small celebration for our almost wedding - just us two.

My fiancé and I had originally planned our wedding for the day before yours, on July 24, 2020 and we postponed it until July 23, 2021. Our guest count is around 120 and we've been together for 9+ years now. We've waited this long, so what's another year? Yes it absolutely sucks because we were looking forward to tieing the knot this year, but we want everyone to be able to be comfortable in celebrating with us and we had already planned DIY centerpieces/bouquets etc. and didn't want all that effort to go to waste. We figured, we might as well do it right, so we postponed. It's honestly felt like such a big weight has been lifted since we decided to postpone. I hated the uncertainty. Best of luck!

Your wedding date can be done as private with the officiant and renewal next year followed by reception. This is something that is being done as your day does feel special. The dress and suit can be worn next year as you will have it ready along with the wedding party.

My province (which only has 2 active cases) has *just* allowed weddings with up to 10 people and has officially cancelled "large" gatherings like concerts and festivals this year. I know each province is taking a different approach, and that what is happening in NB doesn't mean ON or AB etc. will do the same. And all of the progress can go backwards if we have 3 unrelated community cases in under a week.


I would ask yourself how you would feel about having a really small wedding. About not being able to hug your guests, or dance within 6 feet of the people you love. To me I would rather wait for the party until a time when we can *really* celebrate the way we always wanted to. If you can't wait you could do a small ceremony and the party later when it's safe to do so.

We were July 25 2020 and FH and I will have been together for 13 years on the date which is why we chose it. But with so many of our guests being 50 years or older, as well as a few with compromised immune systems, we thought it was best for everyone if we pushed back another year. I was going insane with the whole uncertainty of everything that when we finally decided to postpone, a huge weight was lifted off and now we had all this extra time to save for a few things that we wouldn't have been able to afford had we gone ahead with this year.

It was also more important to FH and I to have everyone that's on our guest list to be there as opposed to being able to say we're married a year earlier. So postponing was just the way to go for us. Figuring out what's most important to you as a couple helps to make these kinds of decisions so really talk it out and it may surprise you.