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Setting the date

Shaelyn, on November 10, 2020 at 12:34 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 10
My fiance and I have decided to get married this summer at his aunt and uncle's property in Victoria. We sat down, looked at dates and our schedule, and decided July 10th would be perfect. However, when we told our friends it turns out one of my bridesmaids has a different wedding to attend that same day. If we were to pick another date, we would have to wait until August 7th. I know a month isn't a long time but it feels like forever.
Is it worth changing the date to include this bridesmaid, or should we go on planning without her?

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Latest activity by Christiana, on November 11, 2020 at 21:34
  • Christiana
    Super November 2020 British Columbia
    Christiana ·
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    I actually just realized you're talking about 2021. I thought you meant 2022 for some reason. I take back my advice in this particular situation for reasons that have nothing to do with your bridesmaid. Even if we do get a vaccine in the first half of next year it's possible there will still be restrictions going into the summer or later. I’d push it back to the later date or even later if possible since the July date has no particular meaning to you and your partner. It’s only a month between the dates you mentioned and so it might not make a difference, but it would suck to have to have restrictions if you could’ve waited a month longer and had a more “normal” wedding.

    It's also worth noting that BC has stricter covid restrictions than AB. In most of the province you can only have 6 people attend a private residence in addition to the occupants - in other parts you aren't supposed to have any gatherings right now but the island is exempt from this. It's possible that the 6 person rule might still be in effect next summer depending how things with covid go. However if you have your wedding at a staffed venue then you have a limit of 50 people.

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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
    Hank ·
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    Considering July holds no specific significance and your only gripe is having to wait an extra month, I would go with August just so you can include your bridesmaid who I presume was asked to be in the role and accepted because she's close to you.

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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    You know what would work best for you to make the best judgement call to have the one bridesmaid present on your original date or to wait until a month later to really want her by your side. This is something that matters to you dearly knowing she is one close to you.

    This is a hard choice on you and I hope the day is still special in which you choose.

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  • Arexy
    Devoted October 2020 Ontario
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    I would switch the date. Family and wedding party are important guests.
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  • Amelia
    Master October 2020 New Brunswick
    Amelia ·
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    I would go with the August date. If she is important enough to be a bridesmaid you'll want her at your wedding!


    Plus when it comes to planning you will probably be glad you had that extra month. Early on planning was going so well that I wondered if we should have picked an earlier date, but all the last minute things made me so glad we didn't get married earlier!
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  • Amanda
    Featured August 2022 British Columbia
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    I personally wouldn't change your date for just one person. Unless you can't see yourself without that one person being there for your big day.

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  • Olivia
    Frequent user October 2021 Ontario
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    I would go with the august date, if she’s your bridesmaid and not just a wedding guest I would assume she’s super important to you. I couldn’t imagine not having one of my bridesmaids at my wedding. Would she be heart broken if you moved forward without her? Is she a guest or a member of the bridal party for the other wedding? If she’s a guest, can’t she skip it to be at yours?
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  • Patricia
    Frequent user July 2021 Ontario
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    I agree with what others have said. If you CANNOT imagine getting married without her I would move it, otherwise keep your date.
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  • Alexis
    Devoted July 2021 Ontario
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    Unless you can’t picture your day without her I would just plan without her..
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  • Christiana
    Super November 2020 British Columbia
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    I personally wouldn't choose/change a date for a specific person unless it was a person that is an absolute must attend like a parent or best friend or whatever that person might be in your situation. It's also possible that something happens after you've scheduled everything and someone important can't make it. For example, a few months after we set our date we found out my sister in law was pregnant and due basically on our wedding date. Even though we knew that my brother and SIL couldn't make it (they live out of the country and would have to fly) we weren't about to change all of our plans to accommodate that.

    Basically what I'm trying to say is it's highly unlikely that everyone you want there is going to be able to make it so I don't think it's worth stressing about finding a date that works for everyone. Something else to keep in mind is that next year is probably going to very, very busy for weddings so chances are no matter what date you choose some people will have conflicting plans.

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