Carolyn
Newbie August 2022 Nova Scotia

Sequel Wedding Invite list?

Carolyn, on July 19, 2021 at 11:58 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 7
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I know pretty much everything about sequel weddings are new in the past couple years, but I was wondering people's thoughts or what you did.
Here's the deal:

We have had to delay twice (Original date: August 2020;sequel wedding date: August 2022) due to the timing of waves of the pandemic. We originally sent invites out in August 2019 as we weren't doing save the dates before the world went completely nuts.
We had a lot of people RSVP no for non-pandemic reasons in the round - health, travel, scheduling conflicts, etc. - and since much later sure to the pandemic.
Is a couple obligated to re-invite everyone from the original guest list, especially if they already said no and it's been a couple years, or does a couple start with a new list? (Either way, there will be some from the first list re-invited)

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Latest activity by Tunisha, on July 20, 2021 at 09:34
  • Tunisha
    Featured October 2021 Ontario
    Tunisha ·
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    Totally understandable.
    In this situation, to the ones that are considered “polite”. I would say you don’t have to reinvite them. I would look at it this way… , should it be that they were busy that day or worried about the Covid situation… then it’s understandable. Receiving no reason while they decline would definitely be on my don’t invite list.

    Wishing you all the best in this step!
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  • Carolyn
    Newbie August 2022 Nova Scotia
    Carolyn ·
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    Some, yes, and they'd be re-invited if they are important part of the event. There are some we just sent to be polite in all honesty and they declined. Part of what had me wondering if we should to do the "polite" invitations again or that would be considered offensive. I think a lot of people have mentioned circumstance change making people be understanding of that though.

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  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
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    Your original list can be sent to the guest who did decline if they had prior engagements then. They may accept this time if they have the opportunity to come out this time and make it to your wedding. It doesn't take away from your new invites as long as get declines from the original list. Think of it as plan B invites.
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  • Amanda
    Featured August 2022 British Columbia
    Amanda ·
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    It's honestly up to you and your fiance. I personally wouldn't re invite those guests that already declined the first time. I also feel that because of this pandemic everyone is very understanding if they're not invited to the new date since every province is different right now with gathering sizes and restrictions

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  • Tunisha
    Featured October 2021 Ontario
    Tunisha ·
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    Personally, I wouldn’t reinvite the people that declined in the first invite.


    Do you think they are a very important part of the event?
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  • Christiana
    Super November 2020 British Columbia
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    I agree it’s a personal decision and a lot of factors can influence it. Your wedding may have changed drastically in the 2 years since your original date and new date. You could have a new venue with different capacity limits, you could be doing a much smaller event, etc. You may have also fallen out of touch with people, made new friends, have new partners/children of original guests to invite.
    I think starting with your original list is a good starting point but ultimately you should only be inviting people you want at your wedding. So with your specific example of people declining the first time around, if you still want them at your wedding definitely invite them! Maybe they’ll have to decline again but maybe now a silver lining of the pandemic is that they can make it. But don’t feel obligated to invite everyone if there are people you’re no longer close to and don’t want in attendance.
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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
    Hank ·
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    It's honestly up to you. I've had some friends re-invite everyone and let people re-decline if they ultimately choose not to come, just so they avoid risk of offending anyone. I've also had friends who picked and choose who to re-invite based on who originally declined. The second example would be relevant if your public health rules only allow a certain amount that is lower than what you intended your original guest list to be. So if you invited 300 people in 2019 and you're only allowed 150 now, there's no reason to re-invite those who declined originally for non-pandemic reasons since they were not interested in attending in the first place. Or if you chose to downsize your wedding for non-pandemic reasons, such as changing budgetary priorities (for example, some people bought a house or had kids since their engagement and rethought their finances as a result), that's also a reason to not reinvite those who declined in the first place.

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