Sending out invitations!

If there is someone in your family that always sends out Xmas cards or something, ask if they can help get a jump on addresses. The older generations (and I include my mid-30s self in this) will usually have at least a chunk of addresses. My FH and I each sent our lists to our moms first and were actually able to get about 50% of them that way. Otherwise, we just texted and emailed and asked.

We mailed all our invitations (all our family is out of town) except my co-workers that I will hand deliver. I either text or sent a message on facebook to get the address I didn't have. I had one cousin who I do not speak with regularly so I got my dad to get that address for me.

We mailed our invitations, with the exception of family because we see them most every weekend. We sent out texts to close friends and private facebook messages to the rest to get their mailing address.

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This. We will likely hand-deliver the ones to our close family only.

We’re mailing out the vast majority of the invitations, with a select few being hand delivered.

We are the same! Hand delivering a bunch (hoping to give a bunch to family at Christmas) and then we will likely snail mail the rest! Just to keep it easier for us! Less money than driving everywhere!

It's always best to send by mail, regardless, unless you see them every day and your ceremony/reception are super casual. Hand delivering is ok for close friends and family, if they are in the same city as you, but for anyone else, you should mail it. You shouldn't make them adjust their schedule to meet you to save on postage.

My coworkers will get their invitations by hand; everyone else (including my parents, his parents, our siblings, our wedding party, etc) will have their invitation mailed.

We are mailing almost all of out invitations by snail mail. except a couple of people overseas (they said scan it and send by email). and the handful of our friends that we see every week.

proper etiquette is that you should be mailing them. regardless of closeness/how often you see them.

I got everyone's addresses when we sent out our electronic Save the Dates. I snail mailed my bridal shower invites, as well as the majority of our wedding invites. There's just something more formal about receiving your invitation in the mail than being handed it. The only people we gave it out by hand were immediate family and 2 of my coworkers who demanded I not waste postage on them.

Even my sister, who lives in Kelowna, got her's mailed, rather than wait a couple weeks til she was in town next.

For the most part, I hand delivered to family and friends within the city and locally in person. The cost of postage saved a lot of money and time to put towards the mail. All of the East end included second family and in laws. West end was my family and other friends I know well. Locals when we met up and to our co workers.

The only mail I sent out was to family in the States and Quebec since I don't see them as often.

I am 21 in a couple of weeks now! We’ve been asking for everyone’s addresses. For the people you don’t see often it should definitely be by mail. You should definitely be sending them out by mail as it is good etiquette!

I'm hand-delivering to friends, but to people we don't see often I am sending them by regular mail. Everyone knows we are engaged so I haven't felt awkward asking for addresses.

I would hand deliver it to their door so that it's more genuine rather than a "oh ya, since you're all here - here's the wedding invitations".

I get where you're coming from though - I'm 21 as well and if it weren't for me working in a mail room for 1.5 years when I first turned 18 I would be at a loss.

I'm sending out e-vites (mainly to save on money) and so far my 80+ year old aunt managed to open it successfully. She even printed it out from the website to be able to save it, haha.

Asking for people's addresses is definitely the way to go. A friend of ours kept a spreadsheet of people to whom they gave invites to, and re-used the address list when it was time to send out thank yous.